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I went to the library today, so yes I went out. The car ride nauseated me, which I didn't suspect in advance because it was only a five min ride.

When I brought my books up there to checkout, then the woman did give me that look and she asks "So what, do you do research or something?" and she looked at me like I'd lost my mind when looking at the titles of the books...now mind you this in a university library. So I give her a brief answer about why I want the books and she says "ugh." What kind of answer is that? So I offered her a smile and she evaded my eyes. What freaking unwritten social rule I violated, I have no clue.

When I first gone up there for a card, she had just looked at me like I was a normal person, even returned my hello and smile but once she saw the books, I was delegated to the ranks of weirdo.:shock: They were just history books...

Anyway, I am wiped out, took a long nap and still wiped out. I hate feeling wiped out in the first parts of the day.
 

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Yeah, what do they have to be so bitchy about anyway? They get to hang out with all the books.
 

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Libraries don't have paying customers, so they can be as rude as they want. If you don't like it, then you can just go buy your books instead.
 

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I don't check anything out at the library. I just use it as a place to sit around and do stuff, and sometimes I might use a computer.
 

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Uh, I acutally paid alumni fees to be able to check books out of the library and we also pay state taxes here so yes we do pay to use the library, lol.
 

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You have to pay state taxes whether you use the library or not.
 

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I paid alumni fees to be able to use the university library.

Tax payers support services like the public library. Things like that don't really come for free. If they chose not to use it, that's their business, but state workers are paid off the state budget.

None of this really matters about why someone is perfectly friendly and normal one moment and acting snobishly weird about the chosen books the next.
 

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It's because they can get away with it. If you did that as a grocery store cashier, you might get written up or fired.
 

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Plenty of grocery store and department store clerks have also given me weird reactions. My ISFP friend thinks it's funny. She makes me laugh about it.
 

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That is a strange interaction. I would think an employee at a university library wouldn't be shocked at the titles people are checking out (ya know, research and all).

Sometimes when things like this happen and there's no obvious reason for an unusual reaction I wonder did the person see/hear something that I wasn't aware of to cause them to react that way. I know that I've reacted to someone else or another situation while I'm interacting with another person and if the person looks puzzled be me suddenly I tell them that another thought crossed my mind and I was reacting to that thought and not them. It's like when someone's waving at somebody behind you and you think they're waving at you until you look around and see that it's not you.

Or she could just be nasty. *shrug*
 

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I don't think she's nasty, it just mildly puzzled me why she would make the change. I try harder to be friendly with people and reactions like this puzzle me.

I was feeling sick by the time I came back to the counter, but as far as I know there was no change in my tone or friendliness.

The book titles seemed to be the changing factor. Like it wasn't what she expected me to check out and it disturbed her notion of me.
 

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BTW, thanks to everyone willing to take the time to discuss the issue. It is my "Am I weird?" verses "I don't care if people think I am weird" thing going on.
 
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