SillySapienne
`~~Philosoflying~~`
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- Jan 14, 2008
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Self aware human beings, and those who use/have Fi.
I just read this profile Portrait of an INFJ
This definitely sounds more like him than anything I've read yet so far . He is an accountant, but it seems he is always changing his job or moving or something. He's also pretty involved in goth clubs and bands. He may seem a contradiction going from "normal" to wearing all black and makeup. I would definitely say music is his passion, always has been, and a lot of his friends share this passion or interest with him.
Does that sound like a possible INFJ traits.
Well sometimes you meet people that just click marmalade. Of course there are some people that after a certain time you can't just pick up where you left off, or aren't exact puzzple pieces. But then, sometimes, occassionally, rarely, you'll meet that person that is not just a piece to a side of you, but to all the other sides too. You can be absolutely open about every portion of your person.
I've never met someone like that, but I've come across certain people in my life time that so little of what I said needed explaining and we could talk for hours, on hours, and do whatever together and it wouldn't matter. And that is something that instant. Right when we met - it was just instant understanding of what we stood for, looked to the future for, and everything.
I just see a lot of people here saying that NFJs understand them better than anyone, and while my experience of NFJs is that they are understanding people ...they don't particularly get me more than anyone else. In fact, my ENFJ sister and I are quite close, but she doesn't get my Fi at all....she totally does not understand it.
Or on this forum, for example, I've watched an INFJ in action as she tries to understand other people...and it seems that she extends that courtesy to people she respects, in general.
My bff from high school is an ENFJ, I think, and she's very personable, and we have a deep connection, but we don't understand every single thing about each other.
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Why is it that some people just... CRAVE to be "understood"? Out of curiosity.
As for me, I live in the constant fear of actually being understood. SO SCARY.
(FYI: My Ariel avatar is there just to remind myself to be more fluffy and less abrasive on the forums. Yes, I'm dead serious. I never even watched the movie. Don't know anything about it.)
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Why is it that some people just... CRAVE to be "understood"? Out of curiosity.
(FYI: My Ariel avatar is there just to remind myself to be more fluffy and less abrasive on the forums. Yes, I'm dead serious. I never even watched the movie. Don't know anything about it.)
I'd honestly rather be genuinely loved than genuinely understood. As long as I feel I have a certain connection with someone and have things in common with them, I don't need or expect them to understand everything about me. That's where things like tolerance and compromise come in, which are a part of any mature relationship. I think relinquishing any need I once had to be completely understood has ironically allowed me to feel closer to more people.
I dunno if crave is the right word, but i do rather enjoy it when the opportunity arises, and it is of somewhat higher importance in my romantic relationships than in others. it's a nice internal sensation, if you will.
Why people crave though, i can only speculate. then again, why do people crave anything? hmmmmmm
Hehehe
I'm inclined to think that a truly complete understanding of each other in a relationship would actually ruin the relationship. Thoughts, anyone?
It's in the neurotransmitters...?
I love abusing emoticons for the same reason.
I'd honestly rather be genuinely loved than genuinely understood. As long as I feel I have a certain connection with someone and have things in common with them, I don't need or expect them to understand everything about me. That's where things like tolerance and compromise come in, which are a part of any mature relationship. I think relinquishing any need I once had to be completely understood has ironically allowed me to feel closer to more people.