I guess I'm confused, if you'd be willing to elaborate, on how 'being mindful next time' is objectifying a person or otherwise not admitting fault and being disrespectful.
At least if it were me in the situation, I'd assume that it was just a mistake on the part of the person making noise. Either they didn't know I was asleep, or they didn't know that I could hear them. Either way, if I say something, then now they know I can hear them and they've agreed to pay more attention as to not wake me up. I guess I wouldn't feel offended or disrespected unless it were extremely obvious (I'm sleeping on the couch and they come in with a group of friends talking loudy for an extreme example) or it were an ongoing problem which is disrespectful due to an insincere agreement to pay more attention.
Intent plays a major factor into this, I suppose, where it does not seem to be the case according to your posts. If someone just did not know the situation it can be brought up, an agreement reached, then if the problem were to continue obviously there is intent to not hold up their side, which is disrespectful. Without discussing it first, in a fair number of cases I would assume it's just a mistake or a misunderstanding. This is probably a reflection of my inability to see these implicit rules of engagement. In the aforementioned situation, personally I think I would know to be quiet if I knew someone was sleeping, so any noise would be purely accidental. Which is why I believe I would get offended by the kind of response you are giving, having felt that you were not giving me a chance to fix the situation which I would by not continuing to make the noise that woke you up. It is a form of admitting fault from my perspective. If I did not respect you, I would tell you to go fuck yourself when you brought it up. The apology is in the action, not the words.
To me, the entire thing sounds like miscommunication that ends badly for both parties. Neither sound more 'correct' than the other. I'm just interested in the differences.