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I'm an ENFP and I'm saving myself for marriage...
IMPOSSIBRU!!!
I'm an ENFP and I'm saving myself for marriage...
That's because 50 years ago, people were religious nuts. People let religion basically have control over their decisions. Instead of thinking for themselves, they just let their religion tell them what was "right" and what was "wrong". Since we now have more knowledge and insight than ever before, people are now more open-minded and make decisions without the extreme influence of religious views. We can make more informed decisions rather than those based solely on a "moral" issue.
There's no guarantee that you won't get an STD from the guy you're marrying. You can just ask the guys you're with to get a test. And you could always put your (unwanted) kid(s) up for adoption.
It's fine. I wasn't trying to be rude or mean or anything, I just didn't want you to close your mind off to the possibility of having sex before marriage. I just want you to think about these things.
Um, er, Haz, no offense, but I think you're kind of overstepping the boundaries there... I mean, women already have their sexuality pretty policed as it is...
Why? How would you know if you were sexually compatible or not? It will not be the end of the world if you have sex with someone you're not married to. Sheesh.
May I please just stand by my decision? I'm not going on about having a bunch of sexual partners being wrong. There's obviously something wrong since around 50% of marriages end in divorce. I'm also well aware of the risks of waiting for marriage. I have a friend who did and she said the sex was painful because their bodies weren't compatible (let's just say it is possible to be TOO big, guys).
I want to be emotionally and physically connected to only my husband. I don't want to be there on my wedding night comparing him to other men. I want my mind to be focused entirely on him.
I didn't mean you were policing her - I was talking about a general trend. I mean, she said to no one in particular what she was planning to do, and then you said:
...which kind of came across, to me, as a mite, er, intrusive. No offense towards you in general...
Geez, I'm digging myself deeper here, ain't I?...
May I please just stand by my decision? I'm not going on about having a bunch of sexual partners being wrong. There's obviously something wrong since around 50% of marriages end in divorce. I'm also well aware of the risks of waiting for marriage. I have a friend who did and she said the sex was painful because their bodies weren't compatible (let's just say it is possible to be TOO big, guys).
I want to be emotionally and physically connected to only my husband. I don't want to be there on my wedding night comparing him to other men. I want my mind to be focused entirely on him.
May I please just stand by my decision? I'm not going on about having a bunch of sexual partners being wrong. There's obviously something wrong since around 50% of marriages end in divorce. I'm also well aware of the risks of waiting for marriage. I have a friend who did and she said the sex was painful because their bodies weren't compatible (let's just say it is possible to be TOO big, guys).
I want to be emotionally and physically connected to only my husband. I don't want to be there on my wedding night comparing him to other men. I want my mind to be focused entirely on him.
Ignore them.
Fi is about personal core values. If this is your personal value then it isn't up to anyone else to tell you what to believe or how to act.
I don't understand why anyone in this thread cares if you sleep with 1000 men or 1 in your lifetime.
That's efficient.you could fix this by getting a plaster mold of his penis and seeing how it fits in your vagina before you decide to marry him
May I please just stand by my decision? I'm not going on about having a bunch of sexual partners being wrong. There's obviously something wrong since around 50% of marriages end in divorce. I'm also well aware of the risks of waiting for marriage. I have a friend who did and she said the sex was painful because their bodies weren't compatible (let's just say it is possible to be TOO big, guys).
I want to be emotionally and physically connected to only my husband. I don't want to be there on my wedding night comparing him to other men. I want my mind to be focused entirely on him.
Ignore them.
Fi is about personal core values. If this is your personal value then it isn't up to anyone else to tell you what to believe or how to act.
I don't understand why anyone in this thread cares if you sleep with 1000 men or 1 in your lifetime.