groovejet02
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Say "yes, yes, yes" and do what you want anyway.
This is a tactic I've never tried. I've argued from many angles, but using my own values and desires rather than theirs. Definitely worth a try. Thanks
You make a very interesting point which should be addressed on an MBTI board: their intention may not be to hurt, judge, or criticize her dreams but to protect her with what they view as a more stable choice if they are SJs (or even NJs). It took me years (and also learning about MBTI) to realize that often when my grandparents seemed harsh or closed minded they really wanted what they thought was best for me. I know that sounds cliche, but it's often true when talking about SJ parents or grandparents.
Don't you think that's a bit harsh? I honestly think they feel worse about me not going to law school than I do about their insensitive guilt trips. They hand me brochures mailed to them by interested law schools when I visit and tell me it's not too late. It's kind of sad.
Difficult to do maybe, but not harsh. You are not at fault here.
Say "yes, yes, yes" and do what you want anyway.
If you don't want to become a lawyer, then don't become one. It will turn you into a bitter, sad and eventually a lonely person.
Didn't mean to scare you, but I've been something like that too. I was supposed to become a laboratory worker and invent a new kind of tomatoes, that I'd call after my father because he's the best daddy in the entire universe and also the most intellectual anti-social person ever imagined. When he discovered I wanted to become a psychologist, he panicked. "WHAT?! You're going to work with sick PEOPLE?! What did I tell you?! People are stupid, especially when they're sick! Take a look at grandma! She's old and rusty and she's also stupid! You see!!!" Anyways, I ignored my father's wishes and now I only do the things I want to do and not the things he wants me to do. He's slowly starting to get used to it.