Despite the fact that I find this annoying, I've been guilty of it.
This is about right:
My sense of self has changed significantly since learning that I'm not NeSi. On the one hand, it gives me an opportunity to embrace my actual strengths, while on the other hand, it makes me feel inadequate in certain areas that I once considered myself proficient at.
I was kind of insulted to find out that I was
a) not a Ti-user
b) a thinking-function inferior
Current theories basically dismiss my propensities to finding out "how things work", tinkering with broken equipment, figuring out machines easily, defining and categorizing, and loving statistics, which is frustrating. And I realize that being Te-inferior doesn't mean you are stupid, illogical, or dogmatic, but plenty-o-folks are guilty of acting like that's what it means. Frustrating.
Plus, I don't see myself as nearly compassionate or empathic enough to be a "feeler", lol.
I also felt this way when I was mistyped at 6--HOLY SHIT, all the life-defining problems in my life are tangential issues, and I have a whole host of problems I didn't know about??? I was mistyped for that one, though. Not likely for xNFP.
So yeah...I'm probably taking that too seriously. I also don't really have a life right now, so that's part of it--no way to change the subject or get it off my mind.
I have experienced on various forums individuals REALLY taking this stuff to heart to the point that they are biased though try to hide it to appear politically correct- but they very clearly create boundaries for themselves and "like" types and exlude "outsiders" and very much create an "us vs. them" mentality. Women stalking men of a certain type- certain it is the salvation to their loneliness and desperation for love. Men feeding off the type tests to inflate their ego saying, "Yes. I am this number and this combo of letters and I'm this and I'm that- therefore, I fucking rock!" I had to walk away from this stuff but then I get pulled back in. I guess it's like anything. Too much of any good thing starts to stink. Moderation is key. And when did we forget that we are all individual people defined by a myriad of things like our birth, our family, our experiences SO MUCH. Just because you might take information in via "sensing" and use Fe when you interact with people --- so? It's really stupid. And we ALL use ALL the functions. I guess I got into a loop of people in various networking groups and forums that very much have made it "cult like" as another person called it. Great description. I feel like a lack of sense of identity perpetuates this. And I'm sort of getting sick of it. Sorry if this was sort of a VENT. I hope we can carry on in this topic. I think it's a "reality check" type of thing.
I agree with this, and this is one of those things that actually helps bystanders like me take the theories to an unreasonable degree.
My own issues with personality theory aside, I don't really understand why folks sometimes resort to explaining EVERYTHING in terms of these two theories. Those who have also studied it, have informed me that mainstream human psychology likely provides a better explanation for us being what we are.