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how do you know that was his intent? why would he have malice towards you or even care enough about you to have it in the first place?From my perspective I told my coworker that he doesn't get to do that and get away with it...
Here's some additional info on that event...I know the difference between friendly banter and an insult...My coworker was at that time not engaging in a playful banter but was attempting to ridicule me...That is exactly what I meant by style/method of delivery in my previous post...I know what I am...It's not that he called me "not normal" that I take offense at...it is rather "why" he called me that...the "intent" behind his words...the malice...That was what you were wrong about the first time you had interpreted my story...
So we have arrived at the core of the problem...The intent...What's your intent in delivering a perspective that, in your own words, goes against/conflict with my ego? Do you aim to make me a better person for "myself" or for "yourself"...in other words...do you want to support me or subjugate me?
already answered:
not in order to break the INFJ, but simply to be able to engage them honestly & actually deal with the problems resulting from the various aspects of this horribly ill-mannered reality that did not stop to ask the respective INFJs/solipsists ego for permission to be true, whether it's me with my step son or the @BalanceFind with his household & assets or @LazerRedDive with her pregnancy or any of the dozens upon dozens of cases, and who knows, maybe even your co worker and childhood friend.
the gist is that while you can choose to not look at your crap because you don't like how it makes you look (which you pretty much said out loud), the rest of the world still has to deal with it, and in some cases pretty much swim in it. while you might be unable to interpret the goal as anything but it's implication to you and thus making the INFJ feel bad about themselves, it's not, but at this point it's sure as hell an acceptable symptom - the world knows more important things than your ego.
edit: i just realized @LazerRedDive particular baggage was more then 9 months ago.
which is why...
An absence of facts that only you can relieve...but are reluctant to do so...
actually almost anyone who has been here longer can relieve it, if they really wanted too - and ruin my opportunity & pleasure while doing so in the process - since as it stands, right now seen how you dodge the information bits you do have that don't fit into your desired larger picture (like the answer to the question above among many others) is more likely to teach me about this sort of solipsist mentality then any attempt at genuine feedback (which you have had plenty of opportunity for btw).