BlueSprout
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Those are all the things that i am working on and I have achieved a lot of them with one side effect. I takes ALOT of energy. ALOT of energy. People at work or people who i have just met. Don't believe i'm an INFP. They all think i'm this extrovert that has his life "together". But when i'm tired ..oh boy..INFP guy pops up immediately.
But all the traits you mentioned you can learn or cultivate. And a few are already part of you, but you need to get into challenging situation where this trait will pop up. A few traits you mentioned are traits not "natural" to us INFP's. These are in my opinion the hardest to cultivate since it kinda goes against your nature, and can make you feel like your not being yourself.
What I want is to have more control over me being oversensitive. People don't see it put , it's a ongoing war in my head and to be able to keep in touch with friends better.
Wow. I can't imagine the kind of energy that would take from an INFP to be honest. Hopefully you have someplace/someone to retreat to when the facade collapses. I've read that INFPs can cultivate an ESTJ shadow, but that it takes a heavy toll on them in the long run. I hope you can strike a comfortable balance in your life one day.
I'm personally not up to pursuing perfection. Few people are capable of embodying all of the traits I described with ease. Also, my weaknesses are as much a part of me as my strengths. It's not that I don't work at them, but I don't expect to ever be as logical as an INTP (as much as it pains me, because I feel this is the standard I'm usually held to), as badass as an xSTP, etc.
Your goals seem simple and few enough to be reasonable. They certainly address typical INFP weaknesses. Hang in there.