magpie
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I think most people alive today have some grasp...however slight...of the fact that "bad things" do happen. And when they do I think most people share their misfortune...not in an effort to get all the dicks to feel real bad-like for them...but rather as a way to communicate "I'm going through a difficult time right now and am not myself. If you have feelings... don't take my mood personally."
Yeah, OP, this was why I wanted you to examine why you think others expect you to feel bad for them. The problem might be in your perceptions around why people are sharing their issues with you. I think you're less obligated to a specific emotional reaction than you think. Not saying it's okay to be a dick. But I don't think people want your pity.