2XtremeENFP
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- Jul 23, 2008
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OK, I am an extreme E, so of course, I love social situations, and being around people, but one of my biggest fears is awkward conversation. It's like a daily obstacle I try and over come every day. It's coming to a point where I just feel completely tense when I am in a given situation that breeds awkward silences or meaningless comments.
For example, in the past week, I have had 2 people in my life lose very important people close to them. One girl I know lost her boyfriend to suicide, and my other friend lost a close friend in a car accident. They come to me to talk about it and I try and help them but I DONT KNOW WHAT TO SAY. I end up just saying like "It'll be fine" or "I'll be praying for you and your family" but I mean, there's only so many times you can say that. I just don't know what else to say or do. and I get SO FRUSTRATED with myself. I WANT TO HELP my friends SO BAD, but I don't know how. I think I'd be better at helping them if we spoke deeper about the issue, than just feeling like I have to comment after they say that they miss them or that they're sad.
Ugh, maybe I'm just venting. I want to know if anyone can relate to me... I want to get better. Any advice?
For example, in the past week, I have had 2 people in my life lose very important people close to them. One girl I know lost her boyfriend to suicide, and my other friend lost a close friend in a car accident. They come to me to talk about it and I try and help them but I DONT KNOW WHAT TO SAY. I end up just saying like "It'll be fine" or "I'll be praying for you and your family" but I mean, there's only so many times you can say that. I just don't know what else to say or do. and I get SO FRUSTRATED with myself. I WANT TO HELP my friends SO BAD, but I don't know how. I think I'd be better at helping them if we spoke deeper about the issue, than just feeling like I have to comment after they say that they miss them or that they're sad.
Ugh, maybe I'm just venting. I want to know if anyone can relate to me... I want to get better. Any advice?