I don't remember if I responded seriously to this thread or not, but my ideal partner has changed completely in recent time, so I'll write.
*Tall, I usually date 6'0- 6'2 but it wouldn't be a deterrent if they were 5'6 or over- they may just get teased a lot in the 5'6 to 5'9 range. I think under 5'6 they may be out due to attraction factor. I'm 5'0.
*I prefer facial hair, and chest hair, I like dark hair but no strong preference. No pretty boys!!
I used to like people who solidly play the "man" role, but am realizing that it doesn't work logistically. I need someone that I can talk to for hours, but doesn't have to be the best at taking care of things around the house and bread winning- that can be split, in fact, I don't do well in the cooking and cleaning situation myself. They still need to be emotionally stronger than me, though, and that's hard to find.
They need to prefer being affectionate and doing a lot of talking and listening and sex, maybe at the cost of more practical things.
Make a decent living. I'd still not like to be the big money-maker, I'd like someone who makes more and is driven, but that's going to get harder to find, too- especially with the above criteria (It's an independence thing more than the number itself-) but if they are doing what they love and coming home happy, that is more important than the dollars being higher than mine.
Not want to spend up to our means/ have a lot of room for traveling, maybe having a few small houses rather than a big time consuming suburban house. (Small house and a camp and some left over, or whatever the situation may be.)
Willing to accept some messyness and takeout dinners. (Not all the time, but not one who comes home looking for their steak and potatoes when they are probably going to get crock-pot soup and a tuna fish sandwich and a note that I've gone to the beach, come join me when they are done if they want.)
Wanting to be alone sometimes or even daily, allowing me to be alone in my thoughts doing projects and stuff.
Respect for my family.
And many more minor things, but this is the first that comes at the top of my head.
I'm thinking of a lot of different P-types here. any ISFP, ISTP, ENTP, INTP, ENFP, or INFP.
But also possibly laid back versions of ISFJ or INFJ.