Malkavia
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So I have two roommates who are twins...an ENFJ and an INTJ. These two kids have major communication problems.
Pretty much what it comes down to is my ENFJ (who is my best friend and love to death) just doesnt give words of affirmation to his brother. Honestly I can relate to this because he doesnt really do anything for me either. Even though this guy is an INTJ he needs love too, especially from his own brother.
I can NOT get this through the ENFJ's head. He refuses to listen to anyones ideas but his own, and his are ALWAYS much better and more righteous. How could I, a silly ENFP, know the relationship of him and his brother? It sucks seeing his brother suffer because I can see him hurting, and whats worse I kind of understand where he is coming from.
Ok rant over. Now on to constructive criticism.
Is there anyway to tell an ENFJ, "look your being a d-bag and you need to listen to me" in a nice way? He just doesnt seem to take what I say into consideration which is annoying, especially when I am more than sure that my solution is the right one. Ive talked to this INTJ about it, I know what he wants, and Im trying to help my best friend out with this but he wont LISTEN.
Pretty much what it comes down to is my ENFJ (who is my best friend and love to death) just doesnt give words of affirmation to his brother. Honestly I can relate to this because he doesnt really do anything for me either. Even though this guy is an INTJ he needs love too, especially from his own brother.
I can NOT get this through the ENFJ's head. He refuses to listen to anyones ideas but his own, and his are ALWAYS much better and more righteous. How could I, a silly ENFP, know the relationship of him and his brother? It sucks seeing his brother suffer because I can see him hurting, and whats worse I kind of understand where he is coming from.
Ok rant over. Now on to constructive criticism.
Is there anyway to tell an ENFJ, "look your being a d-bag and you need to listen to me" in a nice way? He just doesnt seem to take what I say into consideration which is annoying, especially when I am more than sure that my solution is the right one. Ive talked to this INTJ about it, I know what he wants, and Im trying to help my best friend out with this but he wont LISTEN.