Uytuun
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It's nuts!
Yes. I'm boycotting the whole dynamic.
It's nuts!
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no... not really my style. i'd have to randomly bump into him, but actually stop and casually have a cigarette or casually have a coffee with him the first time. which really wouldn't be that hard. i swear we're both up there all the time either because of work (like i said, we work next to each other) or at the coffee shop, which is also next to where we work and we both seem to hit it up a lot. (it's a really cute little downtown area, and people will just come and hang out there for hours.)
i wonder how other ISFP's do in the realm of dating?
extroverts do it so easily. i was at the bar last night... again... and seemed to be the only person that went home alone! oddly enough, the three females i was out with were all ENFP's (i really do live in some strange ENFP/SP bohemia smack in the middle of redneck galore.) all three found a mate to leave with! not to mention i saw my manager, a young ESTP dance on the bar and also take a man home. not that i'm just wanting to take someone home... but initiation like that!
Ah, ha! So this is how you girls roll, eh? Tricky... I like it.
I've known a couple of ENFP males and when they like you they stare at you, kind of like ENFP girls do, and sometimes they giggle or try to grab you.
I knew one in high school that was pretty fucking grabby. All the girls were charmed by him, but I was on to him...I swear to god I climbed into the backseat of my friend's car one night and he just...starts trying to make out with me. I guess this usually worked for him.
I find ENFP men kind of girly, they kind of remind me of myself, so I know their tricks, and therefore don't trust them.
Good luck, though, because when they are truly in love they seem to be very sweet.
For others.
Finally a question directly for my demographic haha
ok, i figure its probably confusing because we enfp males tend to accidentally lead people on, (something ive really been working on recently), but i think the main difference is intensity.
I know i flirt alot with alot of people less because i want to flirt and more because i have a personality that comes off as very flirty when its more just enthusiastic and outgoing
When i like someone, initial caution aside, i practically write it on the sky
i cant stop smiling when im around them, i try to make them laugh, i ask them tons of questions about themselves, i do everything i can to spend more time with them, i compliment them alot, (a big one because i only compliment when im sincere and if i am complimenting someone alot it almost always means that they mean alot to me).
ANYWAYZZZ i hope this helps
i think the main thing is that when an enfp male likes someone, (at least me), its pretty clear
^ yeah i know what you mean there... for me at least, it's like not just normal surface-level Fi, but like longterm self-doubts and existential crisis material... you have to be a special type of person for me to share my emo angst with you
(or completely anonymous, whichever)
I can only speak from my female ENFP perspective, but if I'm really interested in you romantically, I tend to (in no particular order):
It is completely maddening to me. I want to bang my head into a wall, but I can't stop it either. I can talk to anyone. I can befriend an inanimate object. But if I like you... and I am VERY, VERY, VERY picky about who I set my romantic cap for... then I completely shut down. Egad! So social cluelessness on an otherwise socially facile ENFP might be one of the signs to look for when your gauging interest.
- Hold you at arm's length.
- Act (or at least try to act) very cool and collected around you.
- Completely lose my normally charming qualities.
- Get very analytical in my conversations with the object of my affections.
I have a good male ENFP friend and he doesn't have this problem. His experiences is more akin to what has already been discussed on this thread about ENFPs unintentionally leading on prospective romantic partners. On the other hand, I've never seen him fall head over heels in love with someone. Sometimes it sucks to be an ENFP with strong auxiliary Fi. Because when we really fall for someone.... oh.my.gosh... it is so intense it is almost too painful to experience. I can completely tell that my ENFP male friend has not so fallen for any of the women in his life. If he ever does, I'd be curious to see how deer in the headlights this makes him. to a select few. But if I judge you worth the risk of making my Fi vulnerable by disclosing it to you... watch out. You've got me hook, line, and sinker.
I can only speak from my female ENFP perspective, but if I'm really interested in you romantically, I tend to (in no particular order):
It is completely maddening to me. I want to bang my head into a wall, but I can't stop it either. I can talk to anyone. I can befriend an inanimate object. But if I like you... and I am VERY, VERY, VERY picky about who I set my romantic cap for... then I completely shut down. Egad! So social cluelessness on an otherwise socially facile ENFP might be one of the signs to look for when your gauging interest.
- Hold you at arm's length.
- Act (or at least try to act) very cool and collected around you.
- Completely lose my normally charming qualities.
- Get very analytical in my conversations with the object of my affections.
I have a good male ENFP friend and he doesn't have this problem. His experiences is more akin to what has already been discussed on this thread about ENFPs unintentionally leading on prospective romantic partners. On the other hand, I've never seen him fall head over heels in love with someone.
When i like someone, initial caution aside, i practically write it on the sky
i cant stop smiling when im around them, i try to make them laugh, i ask them tons of questions about themselves, i do everything i can to spend more time with them, i compliment them alot, (a big one because i only compliment when im sincere and if i am complimenting someone alot it almost always means that they mean alot to me).
ANYWAYZZZ i hope this helps
i think the main thing is that when an enfp male likes someone, (at least me), its pretty clear
^ Ahaha, I'm going to join you. I'm only 15 though :/
Honestly, as a gay male, I don't openly flirt with people as much as many of the this thread's posts states. I'm naturally happy/flamboyant/smiley ENFP annoying person, but I don't consciously flirt (if I do at all!). I don't think I'll flirt on purpose - not that often unless I know that person is a homosexual...
However, maybe I'm just not very confident with me in relationships? I don't know. But as an ENFP, with my strict morals and stuff like that - I try to avoid leading people/flirting with people as much as possible. Just keep it to a monogamous relationship would be nice - but I'm hella idealistic and young. So I've got no say :L
P.S. That avatar... >.>