KDude
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Today at lunch, we all order strombolis....
Myself, ISTP, ESFJ, and ISxJ. ESFJ and ISxJ's orders get mixed up (They had the same stromboli but ESFJ had peppers). ESFJ had already cut and ate a piece of the one in front of him, so they had to switch (ISXJ doesn't like peppers). So at least 3 times ESFJ offers to compensate for the piece of stromboli he ate off ISxJ's, either by buying him a new one, or switchin that half he cut). The ISxJ said it was fine the first time, why do you have to force the issue?
So I asked the ESFJ and we used a scenerio where he asked his friends to pick up some liquor he liked. The friends were having him over, and in addition to feeding him and giving him a place to stay that night, they didn't want any $$ for the liquor. He insisted that he pay for the liquor, since they did so much for him already. He felt that it was too much for them to do all that for him and he give nothing in return. He pretty much forced the money on them. I think if they said don't worry about it, I'd accept the gesture, and then when it's my turn to be the host, repay them in that same manner. He agreed to disagree, he felt that while he could do that, in the particular situation paying for it would be best. Makes no sense to me.
^I can't exactly think of something to compare that with, but ESFJs I know have been like that.. repeating things, insisting on something and such. I thought it had something to do with covering their tracks or confusion with the future and how things may develop if they don't take care of this or that. But since you're ISTJ (apparently ), then that theory goes out the window. Or it could be an extroverted thing.
Also, I think ESTJs can be the same, although it's in different (non-Fe) like areas. I'm the one who has to forecast and create little scenarios for my dad (ESTJ), for example, so he doesn't freak out. In Socionics, it's explained that ESjs have Ni PoLR, and it makes a lot of sense to me. With that in mind, this may be why they have a habit of repeating orders, repeating requests, insisting on a certain path, etc.. They're very unsure of the future.
The point I'm getting at is that maybe your ESFj thinks the sandwich scenario would bite him back in the ass one day if he doesn't take care of it now.