I think of it as more lusty, primal, instinctual, physical, what have you, in contrast with the other ENFP's in here who seem to consider it more spiritual, holy and mental merging.
I don't see it as just selfish gratification, though. It's about satisfying lust, yes, but also being physically attuned to each other, losing inhibition and letting basic instinct rule you. Just completely submitting to your own and your partner's lust and being totally present in the moment. It's about connection for me too, just not emotional, but on a more basic level, which doesn't necessarily require sex with a long time partner. (Even though having sex with someone you know well makes it way easier to be comfortable and attuned to their desire.) I also realize that this could be the kind of idealized sex Sx 7's are prone too, just my 7w8 version, lol.
Words escape me when trying to pinpoint it exactly, but hopefully you understand what I'm getting at.
Thanks. This more or less aligns with what I was thinking.
Yeah, I didn't mean it literally. I was just trying to portray "typical ENFP sex" as more of an emotional, love making kind of thing.