Okay, okay. All the sarcastic humoring aside:
[MENTION=25345]kangaroo2003[/MENTION], the only thing I can agree with you about is your core Enneagram typing. Do you know what being a 3 says about you? It says you have no idea who you really are, and thus believe you have to "win" and be the best at all costs in order to have any worth. You know what else? That means you are also incredibly self deceiving, you blind yourself to most of your faults and shortcomings, subconsciously twisting words and thoughts to make others (and yourself) believe you have it all together, when you actually don't. Truly, 3 is probably has the least clarity of judgement, because they see themselves as constantly in competition with others-- which usually leads to one up-ing others, and seeing one's self as inaccurately better. 3's wear masks (false identities) because they are so out of touch with who they really are-- this is why they tend to see (and judge) only the outsides of others as well, which is inaccurate.
It would be healthy for you (integrating to 6) to realize that you don't need to win to have worth, and that real value comes from being truly engaged with others (instead of absorbed in yourself). I'm sure [MENTION=22264]jscrothers[/MENTION] could tell you about this, since they seem like a much healthier example of 3.
So, yeah. Good self assessment, but it seems like you might have some realizing to do (as most 19 year olds do).
Honestly, I agree. I don't agree that I judge only the outside however. I used to, earlier, but not now. Could that be 3 going up?
Yes, I am not extremely healthy 3. I can see that when I think of the school. It's not my fault, but I am getting better.
By the way, I was actually typed as INTJ, yet I think I could be an extrovert. Seems like I focus on the external things, results, not understanding, internal stuff.
I have no idea how that integrating works. Isn't the life something like game of thrones? You have a choice. You can either engage with others, just live a predictable life; or compete, try to win. The latter would at least be interesting, not as predictable, more exciting and potentially more rewarding. Going this way requires ways to save time, that's why I am judgmental. But again, it's mostly internal, externally I am polite. What's the worth of the life, if you don't try to get the best out of it?
I wouldn't say I am absorbed in myself, as I seek relationships, helpful to others. A success is what matters, that's what gives you worth.
I could say a great deal but I won't. The most important point here is that this person is 19. They still have teenage brain damage.
Nice, now you are using my way of judgment.
This sounds just like an unhealthy estj I know very well... ironic.
Hm. I am not Si user, that's for sure.
So OP, what is the objective of this thread? Because whatever it was, it has been lost on the feels.
Can you clarify what it is that you want? Maybe that way everyone can focus on your question and you can put up some boundaries to prevent anyone from attacking you again. Are you asking for our subjective system of judgement?
For what it's worth, I don't think you're as different as people would like you to believe. A lot of people are quick to judge and a lot of people are eager to change the values of those they care about if they deem those values wrong or damaging.
I just asked to which functions this kind of judgment, expression of it, relates.
That's a fact
Brb 6hours.
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