Eric B
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To be technical, "ambivert" would be Phlegmatic Supine, because it expresses moderately like a Phlegmatic. You could say Supine Phlegmatic responds as an ambivert, though.Eric, I just wanted to explain my selections further now that I have a bit of time.
I decide upon Supine Phlegmatic for inclusion because of the ambiverted nature of the temperament. I've always been shy, reserved, commitment and service oriented, and relatively private. At the same time, I've also been quite a bit socially aggressive(social ladder climbing). As a young-er person, people viewed me as very outgoing, friendly, upbeat, popular, and enthusiastic. I have a handful of lifelong friends. I went through a traumatic period in my life and I changed in the process. I can't say that I'm remotely socially aggressive anymore. I turn down quite a number of opportunities to befriend people. The again, my priorities have changed, and I've apparently gotten older too. I never minded being alone though, or felt "lonely" in being by myself, so long as it was my decision and not a form of punishment. Journaling, reading, and daydreaming kept me occupied enough.
Now, you're saying you were shy and reserved, yet socially aggressive and people saw you as outgoing. Sounds like you respond more than you express.
And thren circumstances changed it. You're probably somewhere close to the center of the map, in the Supine range.
Then you might be what the FIRO manual (Leo Ryan) calls the "Affectionate Homebody", which translates into Melancholy in Inclusion-Sanguine in Affection.For the affection, I am very Sanguine with my husband, but only with my husband. The Melancholy part fits in where I said, "I am not physically affectionate with almost everyone else (except relatives, but that's different). I don't mind physical affection from close friends but generally do not need much of it and rarely give it."
I wouldn't say I am the don't-touch-me type, but I am not touchy feely at all either (except with my husband). Does that still sound like Sanguine?
Inclusion tells you who is in or out of the relationship. For a Melancholy or Choleric, most are out, unless they meet a criteria (Ryan calls it the "Exclusive Club" mentality). For those who get int to the Club, Affection then determines how affectionate or open/closed they are.