I'd love to have a discussion about being a T woman in a society that expects you to be an F. Do you consider it an asset to be T or do you wish that you were a F? Are you conciously trying to develop your F skills? If you are a parent, do you think you are less nurturing? What about romance?
Personally being a T and also slightly I, it's really caused some issues over the years. While I've always been relatively 'accepted' by my peers and I have friends, looking back I realize that I was always on the fringes of the popular girls and I realize now that they were mostly feelers. I felt like a square peg. I didn't have Tiger Beat posters all over my wall, nor did I scream when Shaun Cassidy came on TV, I wasn't into all of that. I secretly read encyclopedias and how-to books. As an adult, I have lousey sympathy skills, though I'm trying to make an effort in this area. I am embarrassed that when someone has a death in the family, I never know what to say other than 'I'm sorry' and I only sign my name on the bottom of the card and call to offer to make a casserole. I never have the right words to make someone feel better. Though sometimes depending on the situation I will offer lots of practical advice. When my friend was going through infertility, I offered to help her find the clinic with the highest IVF success rate. That was all I could do.
I'm fairly confident and am quite happy about myself, still I can tell that I'm 'different.'
Personally being a T and also slightly I, it's really caused some issues over the years. While I've always been relatively 'accepted' by my peers and I have friends, looking back I realize that I was always on the fringes of the popular girls and I realize now that they were mostly feelers. I felt like a square peg. I didn't have Tiger Beat posters all over my wall, nor did I scream when Shaun Cassidy came on TV, I wasn't into all of that. I secretly read encyclopedias and how-to books. As an adult, I have lousey sympathy skills, though I'm trying to make an effort in this area. I am embarrassed that when someone has a death in the family, I never know what to say other than 'I'm sorry' and I only sign my name on the bottom of the card and call to offer to make a casserole. I never have the right words to make someone feel better. Though sometimes depending on the situation I will offer lots of practical advice. When my friend was going through infertility, I offered to help her find the clinic with the highest IVF success rate. That was all I could do.
I'm fairly confident and am quite happy about myself, still I can tell that I'm 'different.'