briochick
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Hey, I just thought I would throw this out there.
When I was a child I was diagnosed with ADHD (not very common for a girl).
Additionally, I've always had a problems with textures and smells and sounds.
As an adult I struggle to invit any kind of touch. I used to flinch, tell people not to touch me. I used to think it was because of some "issue" but a friend of mine who is very similar to me was apparently diagnosed with some (non-asperger's) form of highfunctioning autism and spd (though spd is not an official dsm diagnosis...), but it got me to thinking, a lot. I already suspected that my unwillingness to let people touch me comes partially from a somewhat abusive childhood and a lot from touching generally being physically unpleasant to me. This is because the aversion is often focused on some aspect of sensation rather than emotion, and it rarely changes over time. Some people feel like trees, all elbows and sharp hardness, other people feel like bean bags, like they'll swallow your skin, other people have uncomfortable shape and I feel like I have to be a contortionist to hug them, some people's texture of skin is unpleasant to touch, some people smell...unpleasant. This is not just limited to strangers, it's within my own family too. I rarely hug my sister. It is not that I don't feel affection for her, it's just...
As I've gotten older I've learned to grin and bear it but I'm not touchy with most people (and then I'm supper snuggly with the few people who I like being touched by because I'm touch-deprived).
Do any other NFs have this sensitivity/aversion with any of your senses, particularly if you were diagnosed with something?
When I was a child I was diagnosed with ADHD (not very common for a girl).
Additionally, I've always had a problems with textures and smells and sounds.
As an adult I struggle to invit any kind of touch. I used to flinch, tell people not to touch me. I used to think it was because of some "issue" but a friend of mine who is very similar to me was apparently diagnosed with some (non-asperger's) form of highfunctioning autism and spd (though spd is not an official dsm diagnosis...), but it got me to thinking, a lot. I already suspected that my unwillingness to let people touch me comes partially from a somewhat abusive childhood and a lot from touching generally being physically unpleasant to me. This is because the aversion is often focused on some aspect of sensation rather than emotion, and it rarely changes over time. Some people feel like trees, all elbows and sharp hardness, other people feel like bean bags, like they'll swallow your skin, other people have uncomfortable shape and I feel like I have to be a contortionist to hug them, some people's texture of skin is unpleasant to touch, some people smell...unpleasant. This is not just limited to strangers, it's within my own family too. I rarely hug my sister. It is not that I don't feel affection for her, it's just...
As I've gotten older I've learned to grin and bear it but I'm not touchy with most people (and then I'm supper snuggly with the few people who I like being touched by because I'm touch-deprived).
Do any other NFs have this sensitivity/aversion with any of your senses, particularly if you were diagnosed with something?