Type 9: Participation
In the social domain you join with a group and channel your sloth or inertia into comforting group and social activities. Through participation, you feel included and loved. You can totally forget your own agenda as you fill up with social interaction and activities. In leadership you can be quite selfless. You dispense and disperse your energy into timetables, procedures, roles and goals. You promote the welfare of the group or community through your selfless participation and ability to mediate. You can find a comfortable niche and sense of belonging. Moreover, participation and defined activities keep you from experiencing the inertia or sloth toward yourself. At your worst, you can get swallowed up in the minutia of group activities, and become preoccupied with fitting in. You don’t speak up when you know a better way, because it’s easier to go along to get along.
Type 4: Shame/counter-shame
In the social domain you easily can feel shame for not measuring up or being a “misfit.†You feel that your protective cover is removed and that your deficiencies or shortcomings will be exposed publicly. You mitigate your envy through shame. You want to hide your defects and deficiencies, keep your fatal flaws from being detected and avoid disgrace. Your shame also helps you feel or keep a connection to others: “They’ll notice me and my deficiencies, and I’ll matter.†This makes you feel special in the eyes of others. Shame also motivates you to do better – create an elegant image, produce pride of elitism, look unique and special, in short to develop counter-shame and a sense of honor for your integrity and what you do for the group. You may become an emotional truth-teller in the group. At your worst, shame can lead to retraction into self-absorption, depression or despair.