I may be ESFJ, and never been diagnosed. But I was also very messy and disorganized (my desk/drawer were like a magic hole that things disappeared into and were never seen again!). I have always struggled with getting or staying organized. I now know it has a lot to do with having TE as my least developed function. There may be other reasons. In fact, this poor ability to be organized (or zero logistical talent as I now call it) made me sure I could not be an SFJ because they are often described as the opposite.
Another important thing, Dario Nardi found that the closest statistical match for ESFJs was the ENTP (strange!). This means that your brain resembles ENTP most of all. And they are not exactly the best at organization either. Remember that in addition to TE being so underdeveloped in you due to brain specialization (preferring FE instead), you also have NE as your tertiary.
FE doesn't help with being organized in the classical sense of the word. Being FJ just means having a very neat and refined understanding (mental organization) of the web of human interrelationships around you and the ability to manage them..you know what to do to create harmony or to get a certain result in human relationships. But it doesn't give you any power to organize time, money, work, objects.
You have Ti that can help with organizing ideas but it doesn't help with organizing stuff. Which means sometimes you can struggle with articulation as well, though not always. Because Ti is very precise and doesn't flow easily in conversation like TE because it kinda needs to look for the precise word (especially when it is not the best preferred function and struggles more to find them!)
So basically all you have going for you in terms of organization is Si. And Si is rather slow and does one thing at a time and focuses on details. I bet you don't wash spoons like others do. You more likely take too long because you wash one at a time and give each more focus and follow a precise "method" each time, making you very slow in your work generally, even if you hate it??? I am just guessing here. Either way, my point is that Si supported by TE will carry out tasks not only perfectly but also efficiently. Unsupported by TE, it may lead to a strange mixture of methodical work (slow and perfectionistic) on one hand, and great disorganization and piling on the other. You end up relying on your NE to solve problems quickly because you are in perpetual emergency mode. Which may make you think you are an ENTP or maybe even an ENFP.
However, focusing on the same work consistently for a year or so will get you to refine your Si routines and methods. You will not become as quick as an STJ but you will slowly be able to do that work with great skill in less and less time. Si is the thing in you that aims for the same (perfect) result, each time you perform a task. So you do things methodically and with high standards even when they are new. This makes you very slow. But consistent practice greatly increases your skill and allows a refinement of the routine/method and enables you get a lot done very fast after you have done it so often, it is unconscious. Those who wonder how to develop Si, I bet this is one of the ways. Find some skill you need to develop or work you need to do, and do it every day for an extended period of time. There's many aspects to Si but this is one facet of it you can consciously develop.
Maybe I'm wrong but I think that's what happens with some ESFJs, even if not all.