skylights
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WTF is that ESTJ doing enabling her?? He needs to grow someballsTe.
/a little hyper, sorry
Lol, no worries. They have an adult son (xNFP) with mood disorders (bipolar and NOS) who requires a lot of their time and energy, and when he's in the mania phase of bipolar, he buys lots of trinkets, so some of it comes from there. The ESTJ himself is a techie, so he spends much of his time collecting new gadgets, and he's known for the pile of unopened gifts under his ping pong table since he's one of those people who literally "has everything". He's also very thrifty, and will buy lots of items in bulk to save money, which contributes. So the men in the house are the ones bringing new things in, and then the IxFP gets hyper-attached and doesn't want anything to go out. She's filled two and a half rooms upstairs in their house, but no food, nothing dirty, and relatively neat piles of things - just LOTS of things. About 6 months ago the ESTJ went through a bunch of the stuff and is still working on cleaning it out. But it's very hard - she's very stubborn and gets really attached... I assume she is INFP because it's such a Fi-Si kind of attachment. She breathes meaning into every object and artifact. A lot of the trinkets her NFP son buys are religious, so I think it's especially hard for her to let go of those, because she's very faithful. She's always had a soft spot for cute animals, too, so she really enjoys little figurines. She also had a knee replacement recently, which of course makes it much harder for her to do any major work. And they're getting towards their 80s. We would help them, but they live about 600 miles away. It's one of those situations that sounds easy to solve until you understand the details of the thing.
They're my grandparents, actually.
EJCC said:Letting things pile up makes me madder and madder until the only way I can get rid of all that energy is by purging E V E R Y T H I N G .
Me too. Stuff accumulates and at some point EVERYTHING MUST GO. I try to be good and sort through it for the useful or donate-able things first, but sometimes I just purge and run. I tend to get lost in the details and memories if I sift too finely.