I suspect heavy bias due to localized culture is responsible (Jennifer, I know, comes from a more... traditional Christian backdrop... which should, in theory, emulate SFJ - caring - and NF - value systems, which it does.)
Yes, that's exactly it. Many of the relationships come either from a church setting, or from relationships established by my S wife with her coworkers (who I have then become friends with), or my workplace (which is heavily S in nature).
Most of the NFs were women I met in spiritual settings over the years as well -- and I meet many more NF women than NT women in those settings.
So that is the obvious bias there for me. The only place I've met so many NTs is here online, but those are not "face to face" in-person meetings, so I can't include them in my list.
usehername said:
ISTP = 0 (i just don't nkow this type well enough to type them, i think)
The one that I have met, I recognized because she was very much like me (laid-back, low-key, fun, sensible, a bit emotionally detached) but instinctively was more into tangible activities compared to my abstract pastimes. She still came across very much as female, but physically active and task-competent.
In appearance, she had longer hair, for example, but usually wore it back in a ponytail rather than wasting time styling it, and she didn't really wear makeup except for the bare essentials (if that). Even when she wore a dress and actually looked very "pretty" (in a natural way), she didn't come off as "foo-foo" -- it wouldn't have surprised anyone to see her throw a football or run a sprint wearing a sundress. Anyway, we enjoyed each other's company; she just tended towards the pragmatic and I tended towards the esoteric.
INFJ = 0 (I wish I knew what these looked like better; I haven't found one yet!)
Probably the "easiest" way is to think of them acting outwardly as ISFJs, but they seem much more mysterious or far-seeing in the implications of actions and behavior and what not.
Both ISFJ and INFJ share the Fe as a secondary function, so in many ways they will both look similar. But ISFJs do not seem to have much mystery surrounding them, tend to go by the book, are pretty much What You See Is What You Get, their needs seem very obvious, they are happy with status quo usually. INFJs have this underlying current that is harder to read, and they interact more deeply, seeing past the surface details that an ISFJ is often hung up on.
INFJs are much less about status quo, even though they have very set personal standards and definitely have opinions on matters. They can see the benefits of many different viewpoints, though (ISFJ tends to get stuck in their own). And even why they are very practical, they often can exude an unexpected silly/imaginative/quirky side if they let it come out.
I don't know, maybe Cafe can explain it better. These are just ways I recognize them myself... I just know as soon as I start talking to an INFJ that she is NOT an ISFJ... it's very very clear to me, the level of conversation is much different.