It was a cut and paste quote. IRL, I'd probably have said prick.
I have observed the tendency of NTs to be able to put off processing emotions until a later time and I consider it a valuable asset in times of crisis. I do not agree that this trait necessarily translates into a diminished emotional impact. I think that the repressed feelings, if not dealt with in a healthy period of time will lead to emotional/mental health problems. I suspect it is a major contributor to the depression that many INTs appear to suffer from. It also seems more prevalent among males which correlates with the social oppression of emotional expression in our culture.
Fs, OTOH, are more likely to be emotional about the situation at first (which is definitely a short-term liability), but work though it, get it out of their system, and have minimal long-term negative effects.
A agree with this, but I suspect that it may be difficult for some folks to calibrate what constitutes one or the other to the particular audience they are working with.
I can be totally direct and stand my ground and still be polite. The person may get annoyed because my request has inconvenienced them, but it usually gets me passed off to a person who can help me (and/or is simply willing to help me) instead of offending the person into being really upset and causing retaliation and resistance.
If being right is what really matters to you in life, and it makes you feel validated when people retaliate against you, then, by all means, to thy ownself be true. If you want to get things done and not face resistance at every turn, calibrate your level of assertiveness for your audience. Humor people a little, use the tools for getting along that things like a great brain and MBTI give you. It's win win. They don't have a crappy day, and you get what you want.
A truly self-assured person does not seek validation from other people by practicing certain behavior. He derives his sense of worth from within through attunement with the higher purpose.
From the standpoint of my personal validation, it doesnt matter how they react to me.
I dont think I should have to bend over backwards to appease their fancies. And I am quite tired of FJs interpreting completely neutral, impersonal behavior as something pejorative.
Jae Rae had a good example. The INTP who gave away the bottle he received as his birthday present was behaving in a completely neutral and impersonal fashion. He simply saw no utility for the gift he received, so he got rid of it. Yet, I bet there were many who thought he was well aware of the FJ ritual in regards to present-giving and specifically did what he did to make them feel in a certain way.
And no matter what you do to explain to them that you dont see it the way they do, they still chant the same cant. So I say..it is the motives that determine the moral goodness of an act, but this seems to have no meaning to them either. It doesnt matter if you meant well or wicked, it only matters that you LOOK like you meant one or the other. Or in other words, your mindset is simply irrelevant, it only matters that you give them the ritual that they associate with goodness. Like accepting the present or giving to the poor. They could care less if you think about how much you hate the person you're giving the gift to whilst doing it, or how you're scheming about what political implications your act of giving to the poor will carry, how the popularity you'll win is going to bestow the power upon you to destroy one of your political enemies.
For such FJs, it simply does not matter whats going on inside of you, its all about the ritual that they want to see.
And with retaliation you're radically over-dramatizing the situation. Most of those FJs however frivolous and finicky tend not to bother pursuing their vendetta against you for something they thought slightly impolite. They'd pay lip service to you first pretending they have changed their course in your favor, and then carry on doing what they initially wanted to do.
It Humor people a little, use the tools for getting along that things like a great brain and MBTI give you. It's win win. They don't have a crappy day, and you get what you want.
Yes, just humor people. Dont think through what you do, just give them whatever they want.
Notice how this leads to the starkest nihilism your mind can conjure? How FJs have no ethic, no personal values, its all hocus-pocus. They dont think about what is truly good or evil, they just call whatever people like good and whatever people dislike evil.
So if people liked human sacrifice and rape you'd be compelled to call it good.
Just like in Russia, first they worshipped the Tsar and the Christian God, this is what they called good, then the communists came and preached a radically different code of ethic and then all of a sudden the communist manifesto and not the Bible is the foundation for the greatest possible ethical good.
So in conclusion, I see no reason for me to prostitute my ethic for their vainglory. The misunderstanding attests to their short-comings, not mine.