I still see this as a form of pre-rejection though - an assumption that others will not want to do what you want to do also. It's a closed attitude towards people, a defensive one which assumes they are opposed to you in some sense. I'm not talking about a fear of literal rejection from them based on your person if you try to befriend them, but a rejection of what you prioritize, which could cause you to compromise if you include them, and you don't want to compromise your preferences.
This is the kind of attitude I've had, and why I realized I have always been a loner by choice, not any kind of outcast.
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That's true in a lot of ways, for me. I really don't want to compromise my preferences. I don't necessarily think people are opposed to me. I just think we don't currently share the same interests. In other words, it's not worth the trouble to find out when there are much easier options. I don't have trouble befriending others these days who don't share my interests to some degree, and have. But I don't prefer to have friends in abundance that I must then be committed to, at this time in my life. ISTP's have the commitment clause to consider, as well
ISTP's are also known to befriend people who specifically share common interests. It's what they enjoy doing, so I think that's a big influence from my part. It's pretty much a practical, cut-to-the-chase method when I seek out a group that shares my interests already, as opposed to choosing to weed through people and find them, or to influence people. I think it's kindof selfish, actually. I need those specialized interactions, I seek them out, and I ignore other. I see it as more of a preference, and that I am seeking to have my needs fulfilled, than a rejection of others who don't share my interests, at this point in time. I need to act on my purpose, I suppose.
I agree in the fact that when tested, I did also figure out that I was a loner by choice... that I was choosing my ways, and they have never been thrust upon me.
I have found that I tend to "reject" those that I don't consider appropriately serving my life in some way. My "rejections" are thorough. Once I reject, I reject completely. Otherwise, I'm just being flaky and non-committal lol......
What you describe, has happened to me exactly.... but it is tied to my past. I rejected everyone from my past, that I grew up with. It's not because I don't like them, it's that I think we don't have a lot in common, and that they are opposed to me. It doesn't generally happen to me these days, and I attribute it to environment. Where I come from: mostly Christians, mostly people who don't accept my background, mostly close-minded people. Nothing in common. Where I live now: open-minded, accepting and respectful, all religions or none acceptable. I don't feel as if I am in-opposition to anyone here, but that it's a blend. I think it helps to keep the situations in perspective. In other words, I think that now, there are very few people who would actually be opposed to me, whereas from my past, I think most would be, but this has to do more with them being opposed to my beliefs and lifestyle than my interests. If I wanted to and thought it would enrich my life in some way, I would pursue reconnecting, but at this point, it would be more of a job than a fun endeavor in which both people gained. I see no gain for myself, and I am selfish in that way.
It doesn't help that I know all-too-well the people I grew up with and how intolerant they are. I just don't need that in my life, which I think, is the real reason why I am rejecting them. So I do have my reasons..... they just happen to not be legitimate reasons for other types, and I am aware of that.