Katsuni
Priestess Of Syrinx
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Yuck! INTPness d00d!!!! Dogs r teh suk!!!! Stop kat h8t!!!!
Plees no hayt teh katz we iz teh kyuute
Yuck! INTPness d00d!!!! Dogs r teh suk!!!! Stop kat h8t!!!!
At worst, you could always be rational and say, "Who's gonna take care of me when I'm doddering around and can't remember where I left my dentures, let alone my car keys?"
At worst, you could always be rational and say, "Who's gonna take care of me when I'm doddering around and can't remember where I left my dentures, let alone my car keys?"
... I really can't imagine enjoying micromanaging every second of someone's day.
I think part of it is for me the difficulty I've always experienced in finding intimacy with people. I do best if I work with them / are forced into situations where I have (or have a reason) to spend time with them.
Parenting kids gives you an automatic place in someone's life for the rest of your life and theirs. You belong to each other. Even if things go to crap, nothing changes who your parents and kids are. So with my kids I felt like it was okay for me to relate and involve myself and invest and give, I didn't feel like an intruder, and I had a rational reason to do so. You just end up spending so much time together that you end up close because of the shared experiences, aside from any abusive situations.
When the kids get older, there's less micromanaging going on; it becomes more about "Are they capable of going/doing what they want without getting hurt or into a bind?" and other sorts of general questions. The early years are kind of hellish, though. Still, I think that generally whatever you invest in will become valuable to you because of the sacrifice, so after awhile the relationship tends to become important even if at first it felt like a bother.
No, but if you say you are interested in housepets and focus your attention only on dogs, one might easily wonder why. The general topic of wanting children applies to a broader group than the target of your OP question. The explanation you have given makes sense, but without it, the reader could only speculate on why you were focusing on women's responses.If I say I like dogs and want to learn more about the different breeds, does it follow that cats are unimportant to me?
I was an eldest child and hyper responsible for my younger siblings as I grew up. Having a child after I was an adult seemed natural to me. I'd already been a parent my whole life, so it didn't feel any different.
Now, ten years later, my daughter is still the miracle of my world. I see myself in her and I see where we are beginning to diverge. Its exciting wondering where her interests will take her and I'm always wondering if there is something else I can do to make the foundation that she'll base the rest of her life on that much more solid. Its the 'grand experiment' of my life and I can't imagine anything else being more satisfying. (LOL for instance, she just came by and read this and, wanting to go out to eat, she said 'More satisfying? ... A burger.)
But I really can't imagine myself giving up so many years for the diapering, feeding, playdate, soccer, whatever stuff, and not having time for myself. I fear that I would become really cranky and resentful.