ergophobe
Allergic to Mornings
- Joined
- Apr 26, 2009
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- MBTI Type
- ENFP
- Enneagram
- 7w6
The one area of absolutely no compromise where other people are concerned is the ideal of respect towards people in general. In this area, I hold people to a personal standard, both in their behavior towards me and other people. Of course I am occasionally disappointed in this area. When I see people violating the respect rule --- cruelty towards any weaker/subordinate living being -- children, the elderly, animals are particular weak spots, I will go ENTP on their ass...:steam:
In general, I believe strongly that you can't take back hurtful things you've said so in most cases I'll avoid saying them as far as possible. With people who don't deserve the full treatment or who are already regretful, I choose to not say anything at all.
In this particular circumstance, however, when weakness is exploited, I won't hold back. Most recently, this come out when one of my travel companions decided to accuse (without any evidence) the laundry service we used in a rather poor area of the country we were visiting of potentially stealing from us. She got an earful. Finally homophobia in all its forms will get me up on my soapbox...
Sometimes I surprise myself by how angry I can become (shaking, holding back tears) but the toxic words just pour out and I will not stop until the perpetrator hangs their head in shame or at the very least walks away. I don't like doing it but it's not an area where I will back down or let generosity take over.
In a similar vein, I'm also the idiot who will likely speak out on the students' behalf during faculty meetings where senior colleagues are discussing doing away with evaluations altogether. So crazy! Lack of accountability is also not okay and reflects a lack of respect for the audience - in this case, students. I am such an ENFP with my antiestablishmentarianism (yes, I was just looking for an excuse to use the word).
In general, I believe strongly that you can't take back hurtful things you've said so in most cases I'll avoid saying them as far as possible. With people who don't deserve the full treatment or who are already regretful, I choose to not say anything at all.
In this particular circumstance, however, when weakness is exploited, I won't hold back. Most recently, this come out when one of my travel companions decided to accuse (without any evidence) the laundry service we used in a rather poor area of the country we were visiting of potentially stealing from us. She got an earful. Finally homophobia in all its forms will get me up on my soapbox...
Sometimes I surprise myself by how angry I can become (shaking, holding back tears) but the toxic words just pour out and I will not stop until the perpetrator hangs their head in shame or at the very least walks away. I don't like doing it but it's not an area where I will back down or let generosity take over.
In a similar vein, I'm also the idiot who will likely speak out on the students' behalf during faculty meetings where senior colleagues are discussing doing away with evaluations altogether. So crazy! Lack of accountability is also not okay and reflects a lack of respect for the audience - in this case, students. I am such an ENFP with my antiestablishmentarianism (yes, I was just looking for an excuse to use the word).