Scott N Denver
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The books on the subject delve a lot deeper into the process (expectations, and self-analysis) but for short simple reasons here is a wikipedia page on it. I guess this topic wouldn't make sense if you aren't familiar with the concept already. So check this out if you want: Quarter-life crisis - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
Here is part of that page:
Characteristics of quarter-life crisis may include:
* realizing that the pursuits of one's peers are useless
* confronting their own mortality
* watching time slowly take its toll on their parents, only to realize they are next
* insecurity regarding the fact that their actions are meaningless
* insecurity concerning ability to love themselves, let alone another person
* insecurity regarding present accomplishments
* re-evaluation of close interpersonal relationships
* lack of friendships or romantic relationships, sexual frustration, and involuntary celibacy
* disappointment with one's job
* nostalgia for university, college, high school or elementary school life
* tendency to hold stronger opinions
* boredom with social interactions
* loss of closeness to high school and college friends
* financially-rooted stress (overwhelming college loans, unanticipatedly high cost of living, etc.)
* loneliness, depression and suicidal tendencies
* desire to have children
* a sense that everyone is, somehow, doing better than oneself
* frustration with social skills
These unsettling emotions and insecurities are not uncommon at this age, nor at any age in adult life. In the context of the quarter-life crisis, however, they occur shortly after a young person – usually an educated professional, in this context – enters the "real world".[1] After entering adult life and coming to terms with its responsibilities, some individuals find themselves experiencing career stagnation or extreme insecurity. The individual often realizes the real world is tougher, more competitive and less forgiving than she imagined.
A related problem is simply that many college graduates do not achieve a desirable standard of living after graduation. They often end up living in low-income apartments with roommates instead of having an income high enough to support themselves. Substandard living conditions, combined with menial or repetitive work at their jobs create a great amount of frustration, anxiety and anger. Nobody wants to admit to feeling like a 'loser'; this secrecy may intensify the problem.
As the emotional ups-and-downs of adolescence and college life subside, many affected by quarter-life crisis experience a "graying" of emotion.
I'll start by saying that haven't read all of your quoted stuff above.
I remember reading/skimming parts of several QLC books and, basically, thought they were "trash for people who had never thought for themselves in their life." In a "I've always just cruised through life and did what people around me were doing, but now, now *people want me to think for myself, AND make my own decisions* 'gasp' Man, who am I, and what do I want out of life??? I don't know!!! OMG this is SOOOOOO hard. Why won't someone just tell me what to do!!!!!!"
Wow, that sounded harsh to say. I think there are a number of, very legitimate, life(re-)assessments, and that people need to take some compass bearing on who they are and what they are about and what they want to do in life. To call such things a "crisis" is, I think, a bit overblown.
But yes, there are clearly a number of changes, and re-orientations, going on at or around this stage in life.