Hello everyone! I have done a bit research lately and have discovered that I am an INFP. I have a few questions for other fellow INFP's here:
Do you sometimes misjudge people? Would you say this is related to being Fi dom?
Do you sometimes try to figure people out too much?
Do you sometimes feel like an outcast due to a slightly different outlook on life than other personalities?
Have you ever used your people sensing gift (Fi dom) and if so when have you used it?
Do you have different, sometimes odd interests than your friends and if so what are these?
When people are exhibiting themselves socially (i.e. performing in a play, performing music, etc.) and they are anxious, do you feel anxious? (Once again, is this related to Fi?)
I'm new here too.
I think I rarely completely misjudge people, but when it does happen, it seems that I'd just put them on a pedestal to begin with. I ususally get a pretty good read on people when I meet them, unless they are stressed.
I don't intentionally try to figure people out, but I subconsiously build character sketches of people as time goes on. It starts off general and the details get filled in later. So... um.. like I said, a sketch.
I feel like an outcast less and less, but it happens.
Sometimes, I'm expected to be social longer than my energy level can stretch. I often politely refuse invitations or excuse myself early, and it becomes a bigger ordeal than I think it needs to be. People tend to think that I must be a loner or individualistic, when I fact I'm very social. I just need time with my own thoughts, and regularly, at that.
I'm not sure yet how to accurately describe the Fi-dom operating in me because I don't know any other way to be. I would imagine it is what people in my life have seen in me that provides a calming effect. I work in customer service (probably the worst job for us) and I have the ability to handle stressful situations without responding in a way that makes them worse. However, at the end of the day like that I have to go straight home and hide. I just consider it one of the many services I offer.
When something extremely emotional happens to me, I often don't have the ability to deal with it quickly, i.e. when I feel betrayed by someone. I usually have to wait until I stop feeling before I can decide what the right response is. It's almost as if my emotions are hogging all the bandwidth. Sometimes this takes hours or a couple of days. Some communication about why I do that is important before it happens.
My interests are often more varied and more involved than my friends. I'm like the ultimate hipster that way, and it's embarrassing.
I definitely know what you are talking about with the whole empathy thing. I often feel like an emotion-sponge at times. Not only for negative feelings, but positive ones too. Just today, a co-worker (who I crush on from time to time) brought in her boyfriend and I could feel all the butterflies and happiness and warm feelings and sh!t. Not a smidge of jealousy, which could have confused the hell out of me, but I was too busy being happy for them. Weird.
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