This is my first post by the way. I'm a married mother of two young boys living in The midwest. Fortunately, therefore I don't have to deal with my sister and mother much. but the occasion does come every so often when I feel I have to....
.....I feel like the way Hans Christen Andersen (INFP I think) described in that fable about the emperor's new clothes. They see absolutes all the time. Anything which doesn't coincide with their "Absoluteness" Is not shown any respect. Heres the short list:
***I'm agnostic and my sister/mom are bible bangers. I'm the one going to hell....
***They believe in dressing to the "nines" all the time and putting their best foot forward. I'm just really more inclined to dress for comfort - they're offended....
***They're militant see-and-not-be-heard mom's who choose to tell me I need to put more structure and behavioral guidelines. I on the other hand have the benefit of being an INFP mom, raising an INFP boy. I desire to help him discover and learn how to define his own truths. The underlying compas behind random behavioral guidelines. I also value his opinion, and want him to believe it does too...
You see, I've been trying to put behind me some unresolved hurts from my past and move forward. I was bullied growing up (really bad), and the emotional aftermath of an abusive relationship through college....
That makes all this B.S. hard to handle. How do you know if and when relationships are unhealthy to the point of needing to end them? How can I cut off contact for a period, until I can handle them in an emotionally healthier way for myself? not sure what to do. just know I hate going home bawling every time after seeing them...
.....I feel like the way Hans Christen Andersen (INFP I think) described in that fable about the emperor's new clothes. They see absolutes all the time. Anything which doesn't coincide with their "Absoluteness" Is not shown any respect. Heres the short list:
***I'm agnostic and my sister/mom are bible bangers. I'm the one going to hell....
***They believe in dressing to the "nines" all the time and putting their best foot forward. I'm just really more inclined to dress for comfort - they're offended....
***They're militant see-and-not-be-heard mom's who choose to tell me I need to put more structure and behavioral guidelines. I on the other hand have the benefit of being an INFP mom, raising an INFP boy. I desire to help him discover and learn how to define his own truths. The underlying compas behind random behavioral guidelines. I also value his opinion, and want him to believe it does too...
You see, I've been trying to put behind me some unresolved hurts from my past and move forward. I was bullied growing up (really bad), and the emotional aftermath of an abusive relationship through college....
That makes all this B.S. hard to handle. How do you know if and when relationships are unhealthy to the point of needing to end them? How can I cut off contact for a period, until I can handle them in an emotionally healthier way for myself? not sure what to do. just know I hate going home bawling every time after seeing them...