ISTPs tend to like to make sure you are interested in them before they reciprocate. If you send mixed signals, that will make them unsure about whether to proceed or not.
Definitely +1! Making sure someone is interested is fairly important. I want to know that he's not just looking for a good lay. I don't have a problem with looking for that per se, but if that's all he wants, then he can look elsewhere given that I'm looking for something long term or at least a little more meaningful. Obviously this guy is looking for a relationship since he's on this dating site all the time.
I'm weird about how I treat people I initially meet...or rather how I think about the progression. I know I'm fairly gullible, so I never *really* know why people are being nice to me at first. I don't neeeeed anyone to be friends with me. I don't neeeeeeed a boyfriend. That ends up with them having to essentially prove themselves to me in some form. I have to see that they're the type I want to hang around, that they generally mean well, that they're actually interested in ME and my wellbeing and not after my attention for other reasons. (It's fine if someone only wants me to work on their computer as long as they're not fake about it and try to be friends with me just so I'll do stuff for free.)
Anyway, I need that before I feel like someone is being honest with me and before I'm comfortable showing interest in them and initiating interaction. And mixed signals are for lamers. You're either interested or you're not. That's just going to delay my interest back...or even kill the possibility if it lasts long enough.
Cause we're awesome and when we perform or fix things, you'd be like "wow, you're really good, nice job" and we'd shrug and be like "meh".
That's definitely my reaction to stuff like that!
Actually he did fix my water heater in my apartment...He asked me for days afterward if it was still working and told me, for that, I could call him anytime and he'll come immediately to fix it. That's when I realized I was dating an ISTP.
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Pretty sure he's more concerned about the water heater.
Yep. I want my work to fix the problem and last! If it breaks again, I didn't do it right the first time and I should fix it again!
I ended up working on a friend's home network for about 3 hours fixing what AT&T had setup very weirdly. Somehow what they did worked, but it didn't allow for any flexibility with the router (no setting a static IP)...it was causing a problem with her Blu Ray player's network connection and it was a jumbled mess of fail. After trying a zillion things, I ended up resetting all of her hardware, wiring things the *right* way and voila, everything worked properly. She hasn't had a problem since and her wireless even works better now! Go me!
i'll give you some istp pick up advice
start the conversation with a bored "yo" -> he'll reply w/ a bored "yo"
then proceed to bait him w/ a "what are you up to" in a tone as if you could care less what he's up to -> he'll probably reply w/ a "not much"
then reel him in w/ a "yo you feel like chilling together?" as if you could care less either way -> he'll most likely reply w/ "ok", if he says "not really" (it's nothing personal, he genuinely doesn't feel like having company at that moment), try again later
You're good! I completely agree with this progression. If he's interested and *can't* go, he'll prolly tell you he's free some other specific time and work with you on figuring out when you can go do something.
Not that I advocate conning, but one good way to con someone into hanging out is to give them the choice of a couple of different times. Say something like "D'you wanna do 'Some Activity' on either 'Option 1' or 'Option 2' days/times with me?" It might give you a better idea of whether or not he's interested. If he says "no" to both of those and doesn't suggest another time, I'd assume he's not interested at all.
And that's my $0.02!