Jess
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- Oct 31, 2008
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- INTJ
I have an INFJ boyfriend. I find he feels he must always be right. If I disagree with him, particularly in a fight, I will often want to drop it and go back to our happy predisposition, he will want to fight it out until one of us agrees.
In fact, he tends to get me agree with him. He pushes quite strongly. I am the one who constantly must tell him, "I am not in this to be right but to instead come to the best/correct conclusion and I'm willing to change if you convince me, and would like you to be able to, so we can end this." Because sometimes, it can feel to me like its become a contest of who is right...
To me, he is far more stubborn, especially when he feels wronged. Yet you all feel us NT's must be right all the time!
And all of my NF friends are the same too! They all get so upset if they feel someone wronged them, and they push it until you agree with them! Whereas, I'll let it go!
Its not necessarily a bad thing, there are definite advantages to it, but I am surprised that you so strongly feel we come off as arrogantly-we-must-be-right when I find my NF friends are often the ones who must be right.
So tell me: Is it just my strange personal experiences, or must you all be right?
In fact, he tends to get me agree with him. He pushes quite strongly. I am the one who constantly must tell him, "I am not in this to be right but to instead come to the best/correct conclusion and I'm willing to change if you convince me, and would like you to be able to, so we can end this." Because sometimes, it can feel to me like its become a contest of who is right...
To me, he is far more stubborn, especially when he feels wronged. Yet you all feel us NT's must be right all the time!
And all of my NF friends are the same too! They all get so upset if they feel someone wronged them, and they push it until you agree with them! Whereas, I'll let it go!
Its not necessarily a bad thing, there are definite advantages to it, but I am surprised that you so strongly feel we come off as arrogantly-we-must-be-right when I find my NF friends are often the ones who must be right.
So tell me: Is it just my strange personal experiences, or must you all be right?