Why not ESFJ [MENTION=10496]skylights[/MENTION]?
Well, primarily, because my personality seems to be described so much better by (I)NFP. I have always been an abstract thinker, very ethically-focused, hypersensitive, head-in-the-clouds, shy, a little messy. I associate a ton with the NF "temperament", in terms of dreaming a lot about an idealistic world but not being the best at putting that into action. In the great swathe of Fe-Fi debates that took place on this forum several years ago, I found myself siding more easily with Fi and needing to think my way through how Fe would see things. I associate strongly with descriptions of Fi as internal Feeling, like a vast ocean inside whose character changes with the weather, a very visceral experience of "feeling". I tend to keep my feelings private, though, except to close people, or if I feel like it is ethically necessary for me to speak up in a situation. I am not particularly Je - I do well when given a structure to work with, being a 6, but I do not tend to be good at creating and enacting my own structure and discipline. And, like I said before, while I would love to be a Sensor (my family and friends are mostly Sensors, and I really admire their strengths), I can't pretend that sensory awareness has ever or is now a strength of mine. Looking at ESFJ, I mostly associate with being very people-focused and desiring to help, as well as a sense of duty - but that is particularly well-described by Social 6: "Being clear about one’s role in the group or society is an overriding concern. [...] Yet there may be ambivalence about belonging. Doing one’s duty can be both a calling and a burden." (Enneagram in the Narrative Tradition) I think I idealize SFJ more than I embody it because I love the idea of being the active, hands-on, practical person doing the real humanitarian work. Obviously other types can do that, too, but I think it's an idealization sort of thing.
The reason I dropped myself off in mistypes is not because I question NFP, but because it has only recently come to my attention how incredibly much time I spend in my head thinking about my self and my own feelings - kind of stupid, but true. I also have been motivated to reconsider my own type by spending time with my truly ENFP cousin (7w6) and friend (9w1), and noticing the differences in how we tend to process.
I asked my boyfriend what he thought of my type last night. He's super blunt so is a pretty good barometer for whether I'm full of shit or not. Here's what he had to say (I typed it up as he spoke):
Extroverted or introverted? Do you mean like the standard definition of being social or is there a special psychological definition? [I explain Jungian definition]. Okay, so, a mixture of both. More introverted if I was pressed to choose because you generally keep to yourself and do things like that [reading/forum-ing on the internet]. You like going out with select group of friends but you only tend to socialize with people beyond that in a constructed scenario, like at work. You spend a lot of time in your head thinking about how you feel about things.
You're more of a conceptual thinker. You easily lose yourself in imagination, you pull a lot of thoughts that are not from the outside world. You put a spin on what you take in from the outside world. You're so-so at noticing what is in the environment. You tend to let facts and details build up and they seem to get lost in the conglomeration of your thoughts. You can hyper-fixate on certain details and you can get overwhelmed with sensory detail.
P because you seem to create a mental structure, but not external structure. You definitely tend to respond to situations more than driving yourself to meet goals.