Siúil a Rúin
when the colors fade
- Joined
- Apr 23, 2007
- Messages
- 14,048
- MBTI Type
- ISFP
- Enneagram
- 496
- Instinctual Variant
- sp/sx
What are your most meaningful friendships like and how did you come to be friends? Are friendships the same with either gender, or do you approach the boundaries differently when in a relationship or when single? Are your online friendships different than those in your geographic location? I just thought it would good to have a thread to explore the topic in depth.
I've almost never made close friends, and have actually done better online in general. Recently I decided it would be healthy and important for my life to make an effort to establish friendships, and I don't feel particularly expert and experienced on the topic. I can be a bit clumsy irl like being unexpectedly too nice early on, or not responding in the right social rhythm. I'm making friends with other musicians and trying to be open to anyone I can connect with. I tend to be a bit cautious when interacting with the opposite sex, so I don't send the wrong signals, but I also think it is healthy for people to have a variety of friendships, but I know I want to approach everything the right way. I am doing more collaborative professional projects to start with and hope to be able to move to some casual interactions with some people, rather than just work in a friendly way which is the only social interaction I do now.
Hearing other people's experiences and approaches will be useful to me and hopefully to others as well.
I've almost never made close friends, and have actually done better online in general. Recently I decided it would be healthy and important for my life to make an effort to establish friendships, and I don't feel particularly expert and experienced on the topic. I can be a bit clumsy irl like being unexpectedly too nice early on, or not responding in the right social rhythm. I'm making friends with other musicians and trying to be open to anyone I can connect with. I tend to be a bit cautious when interacting with the opposite sex, so I don't send the wrong signals, but I also think it is healthy for people to have a variety of friendships, but I know I want to approach everything the right way. I am doing more collaborative professional projects to start with and hope to be able to move to some casual interactions with some people, rather than just work in a friendly way which is the only social interaction I do now.
Hearing other people's experiences and approaches will be useful to me and hopefully to others as well.