If you are trying to win a woman's heart, I think most of the work happens before you even meet her.
Become an interesting, happy, self-sufficient person who is going somewhere with or without a partner. The destination in life is not finding a partner, it's pursuing what matters. Whether you stay single or find someone is like travelling in one of two different types of vehicles to get to your destination. There are pros and cons to both: If you travel alone in the Corolla, you have the freedom to choose your route, excellent fuel efficiency, lots of space when you want to pull into a parking lot etc. If you pick the SUV, you've got company in the car, you can travel rougher terrain, you can pack more stuff etc. Once you are fine on your own, you become interesting to other people.
Learn to genuinely think of others. You can practice this with anyone from the guy who cuts you off in traffic to the person who needs a door held to someone who needs to talk to you. Then when you meet the girl you like it is not an act. She'll notice that you treat other people consistently and when you get comfortable enough not to be on your best behaviour, there will be no drastic change of behaviour.
Finally, you need to realize that you won't be everyone's cup of tea. It's sort of like you selling red. It's no insult to you if someone else is looking to buy green. Red is still a great color, but it makes them look jaundiced. They might even love how red looks on other people, but they just don't wear it well. Someone else will come along who has been looking for your precise shade of red their whole lives. Or you will find someone who was looking for orange, but have just discovered thanks to you that red becomes them be-yew-tifly.