MacGuffin
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Yeah, I get that; it's everywhere on the forums.
What I'm asking is what does the INTP DO to create an emotional safe space for their partner to deepen the relationship? That's why I have INTPs as friends. I don't mind talking about the ideas and thoughts, etc., but what of the rest? All I hear about is the INTP (like everyone else ) needs to have one opened for themselves. This is the major problem with ENFJ/INTP relationships...you have one partner who it's nearly their reason for being to do this kind of thing and another partner who is basically clueless of how to do this. It's unequal, it's teacher/student. Maybe one day the student will master their lessons but what happens in the mean time?
From my own experience and what I can tell from others, the INTP just takes the risk on, a leap of faith that the other person and relationship is worth it.
So if they aren't taking that with you, then I wouldn't expect much from them. You can't help them along much, they'll react against it and withdraw.