Those things arent Fe.. or Fi or anything related to typology. Both Fi and Fe users can be temperamental akd care about how they look to others.
Yes that may be true... But I guess when we don"t want to take others' preferences and concerns into consideration, we are switching to Fi...and when we do want to do that, we switch to Fe...
By default, I am inclined to take other people into consideration when making decisions for myself...It takes others to have acted in a quite inconsiderate and selfish way to compel me to switch to Fi, thereby allowing me to reign in the Fe reflex...(which means I've reverted to my shadow)
So I guess a Fi-dom's default course of action is not to take others' concerns into consideration in their decision-making process until such time that they consider the other person an important element in their personal life... At those times I believe they are using their shadow Fe to feel connected...
So an IxFP, for instance, I guess is acting thru his/her ExFJ shadow when they allow other people's feedback to affect themselves...which I guess happens for people that they care about and consider themselves to be emotionally connected with or dependent on...i.e. people whom they made themselves vulnerable for...
The difference in regards to switching between Fi and Fe should be miniscule for F-inferior people I guess though...
Do you for instance may become very chatty among people (whose feedback, admiration etc) you care about by switching to your shadow Te...?