Poutine_possum
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I'm a female INTP with a strong F, and I've depeloped a crush on who I believe is an INFP- or at least a guy who seems to fit the description of one.
Anyway, both of us have recently gotten out of relationships- mine being with a very unhealthy INTJ. While I like this new guy, I understand that taking time to work on myself is very important and I have no intent to jump into any new relationships (not that I'm assuming that's what's on his mind because I seriously doubt it). But I cannot deny that I have been really thinking about him a lot.
Again, I cant be sure he's an INFP, but at the very least he is an introvert with a feeling preference. I've read a bit into INFP/INTP pairings and havent really seen any positive results (I am aware that any pairing is possible. But that is not why I'm here). My concern, with reflection onto my last relationship, is an issue with communication as well as a fear of stagnation. I see any conflict or concern as an opportunity for personal/relational growth and it seriously wore down on me knowing that I wasn't able to have that in the past.
Anyway, I guess I was wondering:
Anyway, both of us have recently gotten out of relationships- mine being with a very unhealthy INTJ. While I like this new guy, I understand that taking time to work on myself is very important and I have no intent to jump into any new relationships (not that I'm assuming that's what's on his mind because I seriously doubt it). But I cannot deny that I have been really thinking about him a lot.
Again, I cant be sure he's an INFP, but at the very least he is an introvert with a feeling preference. I've read a bit into INFP/INTP pairings and havent really seen any positive results (I am aware that any pairing is possible. But that is not why I'm here). My concern, with reflection onto my last relationship, is an issue with communication as well as a fear of stagnation. I see any conflict or concern as an opportunity for personal/relational growth and it seriously wore down on me knowing that I wasn't able to have that in the past.
Anyway, I guess I was wondering:
- Just out of curiosity anyway, how compatible a female INTP with a strong F could be with a male INFP, and how do they show interest in someone?
- How INTPs cope with breakups (I feel like for the most part I have moved on, but at the same time this is only my second relationship (both long term. First being with an immature INTP) at almost 25 and its only been about a month
- How to deal with these feelings of fear towards opening up and trying again? Will they go away with time? I am genuinely fearful of not being able to put my all into anything I do. That includes relationships.
- I am also concerned with never feeling open to experiencing that deep connectedness people can have in relationships. Ive dated two emotionally selfish/unavailable men in situations where I put in most of the effort (why would I subconsiously seek that out?) How does one get to that point?