Actually, when I look around the world, I see a cosmos exploding with interconnections between all parts of life, a huge system of beautiful intricacy that possesses order, yet incorprates chaos not as once.
It's as beautiful as watching supernovas explode, black holes whirling and swirling, the shifting of the tides, the interaction of the weather patterns, the underwater eddies of the ocean currents.
And then we drop into the complex dances of how people interact and function and careen off each other like billiard balls in new directions. Or the intricacy of the human body, that starts from one small zygote and differentiates in the quadrillions of specialized cells, each one knowing somehow how to function and where to place itself within the organism.
It's enough to take your breath away, when you finally see those intricate patterns all woven together.
(Toolbox, indeed.)
F is beautiful in its own right, but it focuses on other things.
I'm sure there are some who don't.
Outside this forum, one of my good INFP friends is an associate pastor, and he uses his abilities to connect and to value and respect the individuality of all people as a way to lead. He challenges other leaders and people at large, directly, in the realm of ideas; and he lives a life of respect and compassion for others that accentuates people's unique identities on a very personal level.
Anyone can be a leader in their own way, even if not in the conventional sense of ordering people about or being a CEO or general.
I think it's simply a "maturity" issue. Either we become self-absorbed and fuss about what we're not getting, apparently for the sake of validation; or we accept and embrace who we are and then use it to give to others and to the world.