You make it sound as if "friends becoming hostile and enemies" is commonplace. That's bizarre. Regardless, I take people on a case-by-case basis. Just because Bill with a big, black, cock does X, doesn't mean anyone else will. Oh, wait. I'm confused, isn't this the racist thread? Hmm . . .
Are I or E more or less dependent upon their friends and which are more effected by breakdowns in friendships or when friends become hostile and become enemies?
I am offended by this post.
Time to doorslam.
I'm offended that you're offended.
Time to doorslam.
I'm offended that you have the audacity to be offended by me being offended.
I find this offensive. Are you I or E?
I think it goes deeper than E or I differences. Both of my sisters are extroverted and on the surface, they appear to treat friendships the same. But my oldest sister (ENTJ) has lost friends and was devastated by it. She was all bluster on the outside but on the inside, she was having a hard time being rejected. I saw it but I am the only person that would have picked that up. No way she'd let anyone know she was hurt.People that turned against her didn't live long after they did it.Revenge is in order when people turn on her.
My other sister (ESFP) will be angry, hurt, and talk about how rotten the other person was. But after she's expressed all of this, she moves on like nothing has happened. She forgets about them, collects others friends/interests, and just does her thing.
It is my ENTJ sister that is deeply affected by this. I have noticed that despite their extroversion, ENTs do not necessarily let anyone and everyone get close to them. They tend to be highly complex and slow to reveal that complexity. So, it's pretty damaging to her when she lets someone get close and call them a "friend" and then it goes sour. I would also say she is dependent on her social networks. She seems kinda lost without people to boss around and organize things. She swears that she doesn't really like people or want to be around them too much but it's more like she gets tired of people not making sense, blocking goals, or not getting things done. She wants to be around them, socialize, and accomplish things. Unhappy without it.
My other sister pretty much feels that there are always new and shiny people out there to befriend, so why be broken up about the past? She is very dependent upon how much impact (negative or positive) she has with her immediate audience so she has less attachment to her social network. I don't think she has all that many friends right now.
I found this all really interesting. From what I've observed this seems fairly accurate about the average ESFP.
I don't know if you have the experience to say, but do you think that ESTJs are similar in this regard to how you've described your ENTJ sister? I have known a couple of ESTJs and I've wondered this about them. I don't think they would hardly admit it but I think it is possible that they are very deeply affected when they lose someone - far more than they'd show externally.
I related to pretty much all of this:I found this all really interesting. From what I've observed this seems fairly accurate about the average ESFP.
I don't know if you have the experience to say, but do you think that ESTJs are similar in this regard to how you've described your ENTJ sister? I have known a couple of ESTJs and I've wondered this about them. I don't think they would hardly admit it but I think it is possible that they are very deeply affected when they lose someone - far more than they'd show externally.
It is my ENTJ sister that is deeply affected by this. I have noticed that despite their extroversion, ENTs do not necessarily let anyone and everyone get close to them. They tend to be highly complex and slow to reveal that complexity. So, it's pretty damaging to her when she lets someone get close and call them a "friend" and then it goes sour. I would also say she is dependent on her social networks. She seems kinda lost without people to boss around and organize things. She swears that she doesn't really like people or want to be around them too much but it's more like she gets tired of people not making sense, blocking goals, or not getting things done. She wants to be around them, socialize, and accomplish things. Unhappy without it.