Weird, I just noticed this thread when I was checking out one I made a few days ago, and spotted a link to an olddddddd thread I made. I guess I should give a little bit more perspective since I am here. I am an ENTP, she is an INTJ.
Most relationships when we fight, I just roll over and go to sleep not really caring. This one is entirely different. I actually care which is odd in its entirety. It is possible the most confusing, most sexy, greatest, most amazing, hardest, we fight way too much, relationship I have ever been in.
Her and I, are the exact polar opposites while being the same exact person, if that makes any sense at all.
Sometimes I feel like we can both look at a situation or problem and both look at it and see the same solution but from an exact opposite angle. A good example is this. When I want to talk about some type of problem or thing we did, she will go, "No, that is done we reached a solution." I will go, "We reached a solution but I want to consider your perspective as well. Why did you say what you did? Why did you think that? blabla." This really pisses her off as I have trouble stopping when I get going, "Well why wouldn't you want to talk about it?" Etc. I am really good at needling her. We both have reached the same solution in our heads, and we have no problems picking the solution, as we both pick the same answer every single time. But I point at the problem and say, "That is the answer," then decide why that is the answer later to fit whatever need or rationality I have, or am able to twist into having. She will have probably thought about the problem all night and realized it was going to be a problem and then thought all day about it before it became a problem and she brought it up, so she already knew the answer having analyzed the details of the problem for the last 24 hours to get what her answer was going to be.
She goes: Considers details and wants to think about them -> Big Idea/Answer -> Lets never talk about it again.
I go: What problem? There is no problem, so don't worry or talk about it -> Big Idea/Answer -> Lets talk about the details why we just did that so we even know.
So we each and every time we can arrive at the exact same conclusion. But she thinks about details of the problem, organizes them, and then goes to the big picture and makes her decision. I spot the problem, pick the answer seemingly out of thin air, then I sit down to think about why I just did that and organize the details.
We are basically the exact polar opposites while being the exact same person. We pick the same answer. But we arrive at the answer from different angles.
I will write up some more later tonight when I have more free time. I could probably expatiate on this quite a lot more.