Hi there,
old topic but want to say something as I am in relationship with ESTJ, and I am INFP
(english is my 2nd language btw)
so, she is ESTJ and everything work very very good. I live the dream I would say. At first, the first day we need to adapt each other that's true. For exemple, she is very details for some things I did not care at all ^^ and I was sensitive too, coz everything she thinks she says . So i was not used to that haha...but it's not bad ! I mean, in a couple , the key for me is communication.
As it works very well. Coz I know that she says things not for bothering me or waht, it is jus she needs to let you know. So now I don't take as criticism but more like an information.
She is very very sweet and take care of me. The first woman I met in my life like this. She gives me love, she is every expressive too so I enjoy that.
We have many many common points, she loves reading, she likes playing , she loves talking about many things in life. She is very open minded. She likes to travel. She needs calm too, she hates to have argument, and as a INFP I hate too. I don't like conflict so she is ! perfect. If we have conflict we just talk a peace way and kiss at the end
I have never felt this before, she is like a woman for me and I am for her.
The hardest thing actually, it was not about personnality thing. It was just her religion in the middle lol she is protestant and I was....atheist or not really, just did not have any religion.
First it was hard for her but then she understand me as I understand her. She wanted me to come at the church with her (not for her religion, just to be with her) so I say ok but only sometimes and not every sunday (INFP we like to have choices...) so I made her understand this, and she is ok of course.
Now thanks to her, I met new people, I go sometimes for meeting talking about Bible thing and Life, and it's very interestings. Even if it was strange for to talk about these things, I find the conversation more interesting than with my own friends sometimes. I am very curious and love to ask myself questions about Life. My g/f gave me this opportunity to meet educated people and very kind people too.
So, at first I would say, INFP and ESTJ have to adapt. ESTJ say what they think. INFP we think but we do not dare to say it. I improve a lot thnaks to her. For exemple now, I say "no" to my boss if something is bad or bothers me.
we always say that ESTJ like to micro manage, and it's annoying to INFP. It's not true for me at least. She wants to manage only at work. In our couple, I can manage many things and if I do not agree I tell her. No problem. And actually, sometimes, I prefer she manages things, coz I can be lazy
and count on her.
So metting Love in INFP ESTJ relationship is totally possible.