Quiet Fire
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- Aug 24, 2009
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- MBTI Type
- infp
re above... a true emotional and intellectual connection...
I tried hard to ask/convince him that we could communicate as friends (telling him I was dating and encouraging his meetings/dating) - but to no affect ('effect'..?!) After a divorce.. he should be making new friends.. re-building and formulating a new life for himself. I know it's a time of much change for him.. As I write this.. I can only conclude that I was/am more difficulty - trouble - a negative - - than worth... From what I know, he is trying to be consistent and being honest... just not saying anything (which is saying something - but what..?!)!
.. perhaps he 'intuited' me as being too needy
I can only conclude that I was/am more difficulty - trouble - a negative - - than worth...
The problem with NF/NF relationships are that we're all always so sensitive; we are strong, yes, but there are triggers each of us has that would make us fly away unless growth has happened to cause us to become calused to them.
And no offense to the ENFPs, but unless they've grown up, they tend to be emotionally flaky
I think it takes a long time for an ENFP to really figure out what they want out of love/out of life.
I don't 'want' him... I just don't want to be thrown away by him.
Sorry, mine isn't either.
What I just meant to say was that for NF/NF relationships to last (so they can stay together), they need to work at being tolerant of the softer parts of each other.
Well said.
The wonderful part of the NF/NF pairing - the deep understanding and emotional connectivity - can also be a big hobble if both partners aren't kind and respectful of each other. There can be a lot of feeling flying around, so being respectful and humble with one another is critical.