And INFJs believe it is okay to force their beliefs down others' throats, and they also have no depth of feeling in themselves.
Extroverted Feeling... feeling for others. I can see a connection there. I also know an INFJ who believes that the crusades were justified.
You can't oversimplify things like that.
INFPs aren't selfish. Fi isn't selfish.
Agreed. I'm just emotionally
honest (okay not always but hey...)
I honestly wonder why some people think they are "deeper" than others.
Where does this come from?
How do you even know you are deeper than someone?
What does that even mean...to be deep?
I usually find people who think they are deep to simply believe that they have the right answer to everything and know more about life than others whether or not it is true. I'm amazed by the number of people who believe they are deeper than other people and do not hesitate to
belittle other people's inner lives. "You do not "x" as deeply as I do"...
Anyways back to topic.
Well, let me ask you something:
Do you think that you should place other people's needs above your own? If you do, what are your motivations and what has it brought you? Why would you even
expect someone to place
your needs above their own?
I would know about people calling me selfish a lot as a child and only being nice to me when I was their doormat. I grew up, thank god.
I'm very aware of myself, I think about myself a lot. I don't place other people's needs above my own.What I worry about the most is myself and my family. I don't expect
anyone to place my needs above their own, not even my parents.
Does that mean I don't care about people? No. I do care a lot about people I'm close to and am always giving them things if they need them and I can offer them if it doesn't compromise my own well being. Occasionally I do but it's rare. I'm not a bleeding heart, not anymore. I used to do the exact opposite and just "give it all away" but it has brought me nothing good in life so I stopped.
Yes, call me selfish for not taking your needs into account. I have a nice little saying for people who call you selfish:
"The only reason we call other people selfish is because they ignore our personal interest, benefit or well-being."
It's not other people's duty to care for you it's your own.I feel
blessed someone even cares for me. I wouldn't want to complain about someone not "caring enough about me" especially if it's because their own needs are at stake. I'd probably whip myself mentally for that later.
(Just re-read post, wow. Much less aggressive=> My point is:
Just because you decide to be selfless doesn't turn others who do not choose to do the same into selfish people.)