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- Sep 28, 2008
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- sp/sx
Personally.. I need LOTS of space.
Space just being alone time, not actual square footage (ofc).
Like, in my bedroom. Or in my car, listening to music. Or in the bathtub reading a book.
Those are places I know I'm not likely to be intruded upon.
It's best when I live entirely alone, though that's not always doable.
It's just that 100% uninterrupted freedom, let my mind just wander the vast expanse of my internal universe. I hate getting jerked out of it suddenly - or being kept from visiting it for extended periods of time.
People knocking at my door, yelling for me constantly, or otherwise summoning me is a huge 'space invader' for me, indirectly speaking. As are many phone calls. I hate the phone. Text messages are usually ok, but even on my stressful days, I just want to be invisible, dammit. Let me recharge in peace!
People just 'showing up' at my house.. is unacceptbale 99.9% of the time.
Unless you're upset or something. I can make an exception.
Not that I don't enjoy the company of my friends, etc, but I definitely need to adjust to being around people, including them. So bursting into my space without warning, just, throws me off, and irks me. You'd rarely notice this, though I would tell you plainly at some point, not to just show up again. Nothing personal. Even just call or text from a few minutes away would be helpful.
For this reason I try very hard to understand the personal boundaries of others as well, regardless as to whether or not they make sense to me. They don't have to.
Really, I could go weeks without interacting person-to-person with a soul and be totally fine with it. Not sure if it's healthy, but it doesn't feel unhealthy.
Space just being alone time, not actual square footage (ofc).
Like, in my bedroom. Or in my car, listening to music. Or in the bathtub reading a book.
Those are places I know I'm not likely to be intruded upon.
It's best when I live entirely alone, though that's not always doable.
It's just that 100% uninterrupted freedom, let my mind just wander the vast expanse of my internal universe. I hate getting jerked out of it suddenly - or being kept from visiting it for extended periods of time.
People knocking at my door, yelling for me constantly, or otherwise summoning me is a huge 'space invader' for me, indirectly speaking. As are many phone calls. I hate the phone. Text messages are usually ok, but even on my stressful days, I just want to be invisible, dammit. Let me recharge in peace!
People just 'showing up' at my house.. is unacceptbale 99.9% of the time.
Unless you're upset or something. I can make an exception.
Not that I don't enjoy the company of my friends, etc, but I definitely need to adjust to being around people, including them. So bursting into my space without warning, just, throws me off, and irks me. You'd rarely notice this, though I would tell you plainly at some point, not to just show up again. Nothing personal. Even just call or text from a few minutes away would be helpful.
For this reason I try very hard to understand the personal boundaries of others as well, regardless as to whether or not they make sense to me. They don't have to.
Really, I could go weeks without interacting person-to-person with a soul and be totally fine with it. Not sure if it's healthy, but it doesn't feel unhealthy.