tellitslant
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- Feb 11, 2011
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- INTJ
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- 5w6
Hi guys,
my first post here, and not sure if a similar topic has been posted previously.
I have an INFJ male co-worker (he did the test recently) in his mid-20s whom I'm quite interested in and intrigued by. We've gone out on the spur of the moment to after-work dinners, just the two of us. and also exchanged text messages outside of work on weekends etc. There have been a couple of times when he was working late by himself at the office, and asked me to continue texting him on his mobile then. He seems like the sort who's better at written communication than verbal, and mentioned that he can't imagine talking on the phone for more than 20 mins. My fellow co-workers perceive him as shy/quiet and not prone to initiating conversations. One even mentioned that she couldn't imagine any girl being romantically interested in him.
He seems pretty mood driven and tends to open up more/share more personal insights with me when work isn't too stressful. For that reason, I think I've been getting both hot and cold signals from him, and can't really tell if he's interested in pursuing something romantically.
I'll be moving on from this job in a couple of months though, and am really not sure if he wants to keep in touch. He mentioned that he doesn't think co-workers usually keep in touch, which seems a sweeping generalisation. I've read that INFJ guys don't do much initiating though, as an INTJ female I'm prepared to put myself out there a bit more, but I have my personal limits too.
Anyone has advice?
my first post here, and not sure if a similar topic has been posted previously.
I have an INFJ male co-worker (he did the test recently) in his mid-20s whom I'm quite interested in and intrigued by. We've gone out on the spur of the moment to after-work dinners, just the two of us. and also exchanged text messages outside of work on weekends etc. There have been a couple of times when he was working late by himself at the office, and asked me to continue texting him on his mobile then. He seems like the sort who's better at written communication than verbal, and mentioned that he can't imagine talking on the phone for more than 20 mins. My fellow co-workers perceive him as shy/quiet and not prone to initiating conversations. One even mentioned that she couldn't imagine any girl being romantically interested in him.
He seems pretty mood driven and tends to open up more/share more personal insights with me when work isn't too stressful. For that reason, I think I've been getting both hot and cold signals from him, and can't really tell if he's interested in pursuing something romantically.
I'll be moving on from this job in a couple of months though, and am really not sure if he wants to keep in touch. He mentioned that he doesn't think co-workers usually keep in touch, which seems a sweeping generalisation. I've read that INFJ guys don't do much initiating though, as an INTJ female I'm prepared to put myself out there a bit more, but I have my personal limits too.
Anyone has advice?