I'm constantly failing my idealized self, doing her justice only on occasion-- and then it's real emotional and spiritual progress, which means embracing action. That's the funny thing, I think all that is required to step into the Idealized Self shoes is action. So so many times that I fail, or miss the boat, it's been because I let shame and fear keep me from actively standing up in my gifts. I'm literally just like, "oh, but no one will think that's good, so I won't put it out there", or "they don't need me, of all people, to contribute. So I won't." Instead, when I act and submit my work, or send the email, or ask the person to coffee, then my I'm living as my idealized self because I'm putting myself out there. And it's crazy, people actually don't reject me the way they do when I recluse and hamstring myself.
That's me anyway. Idealized self can be an unhealthy fantasy, but it can also be our realized purpose and potential-- all a 4 really wants, you know?
[MENTION=18559]Inis Mona[/MENTION] You might experience that differently, with a 3 wing. I'd be curious to hear. I guess I'd just assume the 3 component would make action not a trouble spot for you at all. For me, 5--->8 means action. For you, 3--->6 could mean focus on loyalty, honesty or honor?
Of course, 4--->1 kind of means action too. Or physical realization?