Why are you even bothering if he's such a bastard?
I mean really.
Ill throw you a bone.
As I said, I am a massive introvert. However, I still talk to others, and will make the effort to get to know someone if I know I will be seeing them again.
Starting with small talk, I will reveal a bit of myself to the person, all the way taking note of their response to me. Once I know them a bit better, I will put down something I find interesting, some opinion, thought or feeling. If they come back with their own interesting opinions and show me they have a personality I will move them into my "interesting persons" category. If I can only get small talk out of them after a few attempts I will lose interest and I will move them into my "dull person" category untill they prove me wrong.
An interesting person will get a lot out of me, a dull person will only get polite small talk.
Well we all know things like when the introvert complains about an E being too assertive and an E complains about an I being too mysterious.
I was thinking about developing a concept for myself both can find common ground and have a successful discussion and that involves to the greatest part: know your introverts or extroverts.
I have to say, if a person really thinks she would only talk to people she things are intelligent enough to be talked to, I think she has failed and I dont think that's the definition of being an introvert.
I have learnt a bit from my girlfriend. When we are in discussion, I tend to arrogate answers from her and if she doesnt shoot in an instant, I get the feeling she isnt listening and such. She explained to me that she needs time to process that at all.
I think it's a very lovely attitude and I wouldnt want to miss that in her, it's just I needed to know it existed at all, to not think or feel the wrong impressions from her discussion style.
Ah I see.
Yes.
I usually can't understand what Entropie is talking about in his posts. I think I have a mild learning disability.
Dont worry, that's no learning disability
. If I shoot any idea like that, it's more unfinished thoughts I try to bounce off and try to make clear for myself. I know this prolly can piss of people, I am just no big fan of making up my mind and then opposing it onto others. I'ld more like to find a view on topics for myself, I checked with reality first. But most of the times there are so many different opinions that you rather become insane, what's the point I am at presently
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You know, I dont want to pace you, I respect Introverts for their style of talking and I see in both attitudes, namely E and I, advantages and disadvantages. In the end tho its the balance that's the best, like with everything in life.
And I tried to ask for ideas for a sucessful discussion with an I. May it be for the business world, a personal friend or your beloved one. Cause I cant say from myself I am rather good in discussion with introverts.
The first rule, if I may call it so, what I liked is:
- give an Introvert time and space to think. He may get back to you on the topic after a whole week, but he will get back to you if he cares
If you have any other ideas or most important wishes in a discussion with an E and want to share, pls shoot