Well then, as long as there is feast in with the famine, I guess that would end up alright.
Do you think for the most part it takes time to mature into doing that, or were you always aware of that tendancy and therefore made efforts to compensate?
So what spurs you on to keep on it?
Like an unsolved puzzle that will explode if you don't figure it out in time?
And INFJs SOP after agressive availability?
Yep.
Oh my god I used to do this all the time in high school. I would take a different "route" to my next class in order to just "happen" to pass by the object of my affections and whenever they said hello I'd act like me being there was a complete coincidence lolMaybe male INFJs. Female ones just always "happen" to be in your path where they weren't before and then pretend like they didn't see you there unless you initiate conversation. I always thought it was awkwardly and painfully obvious.
I think it's a question of focus. Wherever I am focused is where I put my energies. But, my focus tends to shift wildly at times. So, it can appear as feast or famine. They say ENTP's can be hard to have as parents. I have noticed with friends if I am just not feeling like spending time with a certain person I can be very aloof with them and even avoid them. I think NTP's are some of the most selfish people out there. We basically have to simulate empathy by way of our understanding, I think. I have to constantly check my own selfishness. But, paradoxically, I think this helps make me considerate. Since I regularly try to work at it.
i think infjs are one of the worst types, when they have strong feelings and are extremely introverted/poorly practiced socially, of having any sense whatsoever of how others would take their signs and signals. they may luck out and have someone who just gets it right away, but it is unlikely.
not to mention infjs push-pull, the over-reactive retreat move as soon as they feel like they are too far exposed or have gestured too strongly, makes others question how they actually feel. it just ends up being skittish, highly anxious, and somewhat absurd. bizarre Fe projections is my new favorite descriptor.
my best awkward moments have been when i've had a crush on another infj. holy shit- two people should not have so many nerves. but overall, the infps, the enfps, the esfps- they all were mostly awkward too. surely i just looked crazy, being so intently focused at times but then pretending to not notice them, ignoring them, clearing expression and tightening my face, etc. i just didn't know how to hang in there and deal with my own feelings.
also, the amelie scene in which she is writing on the glass board is about right. and imagining the guy coming to her door from the street and only realizing it was the cat.
getting a bit more comfortable with the process, learning how to interact and get good information makes the whole process less degrading, humiliating, and valium needing.