i was in a complicated relationship (long distance) with an enfj for a year, and i thought he really really liked me, but two days ago, after he took me out on our first and probably last date (which went really well actually) I asked him over text if he still liked me and said that we needed to decide wether we were friends or more. His response was ; 'im very happy about your feelings for me but as expected i can't be with you. Sorry. But I want to remain friends with you always!' And then I said 'oh, right. I'm sorry' and then he said 'yeah, let's have a meetup with our friends when you come again' and I said 'sure' and he hasnt responded to that and in my experience he probably won't. At first I was very very angry and hurt, especially since he didnt even give me an explaination or tell me wether he still liked me but I dont want to ask for it if he doesnt want to tell me. He did update his status to 'please don't hate me.' yesterday which is probably directed at me. I thought that was kind of a selfish thing to say and I still dont understand why he pretended to like me so much for that long if he didnt even want to be with me. But then again, I still do love him even though sometimes when I'm not physically there I feel like he doesn't care about me at all. So, do you think he's feeling sad too? Maybe he's doing great but if he was feeling sorry for me I'd feel terrible. And how can I help him feel better? Or do you think he's fine?